Balance is the word of the week. but not in the way you might be thinking. It’s not going to be about having time enough for everything. Rather it’s going to be a time where we can get clarity on where we are putting out too much or too little, whether we are getting back too much or too little. That fundamental flow of give and take affects everything from our relationship to ourselves and our enoughness, to our relationships with our loved ones.
This week, the spirits guided me to draw “share our thoughts” and “heal the ouch”. As we move out of the shadow of this past Merc retro period, some challenges or mindset shifts might get your attention. This isn’t a signal to stop what you are doing, but rather to focus on what’s going to help you flow. Stay tuned to your inner truth and let it shine this week, even if you have to get a little courageous and vulnerable.
There is also guidance to “ride the wave” and a two of wands thrown in to remind us to find and maintain a balanced flow. We have been in a two week period where there have been no retrogrades mixing things up for us. This period is about to end, and next week we’ll see an uptick in energy and activity. But for now, we are reminded to keep our nose to the grindstone and follow through with what we know has to be done. Even if we aren’t fully committed or have our new year’s plans settled out, it’s time to keep moving. Just keep it balanced, no over-extending, no doing things yourself because it’s easier than having to explain. Balance your in-breath and your out-breath, your in-flow of energy and your out-flow of energy.
This centered state of flow should be somewhere part of the goal destination we are growing towards. You can use the first new of the year to help you release any unbalanced flows or blocks keeping you from finding that sweet spot between impassioned and productive.
This will also be a great week coming for ferreting out what you really want from the next 11 months of this new beginning. Having the next step is the most important part, but this week you might get more than a hint about where your actions and intentions might be leading you! The key right now is follow through on what you DO know!
Let yourself be drawn by the stronger pull of that which you truly love.
It surprised me that relation came up, as I plotted and planned out this month’s series “Practices that matter”. It hadn’t been my first choice. I thought perhaps I would talk more about centering, grounding, soul embodiment, and so forth. Things you’ve heard me talk about before. But as I lived out my practices, I found that relaxation is what I really needed, and therefore probably needed to talk about. The guidance you get for yourself, usually is the guidance that will help others too, right?! 😉
Stress is part of our survival mechanism. I’m sure we’ve all read enough articles to know that stress is not a place that long-term stress is not good for the vessel. The ironic part is that our brain can’t actually tell the difference between high stress and high excitement or joy. Both states trigger similar reactions in our body. This means that we, our thinking, is the only thing interpreting whether a situation is good or bad. While both happiness and stress can trigger similar reactions, only stress has long-lasting negative effects on our natural spiritual connection. During stress, we are so busy trying to protect ourselves that our attention focuses almost solely on the physical. In other words, our natural balance between physical and soul automatically shifts toward the physical, making it harder to hear or understand guidance. Being so focused on just that one state of being that creates a tunnel vision effect in our thinking and perception. This state of mind is hard to break if we don’t know the difference between fear-based thinking and intuition. It can make our thinking AND our guidance muddled.
Einstein said that we cannot solve our problems with the same thinking that created them. When we stay in the stress state, we are tunnel visioned into the thinking that created the block. It is only when we can tune back into Soul and Divine self that we begin to more clearly access intuition and wider perspective. I know that it’s going sound a little impossible to relax when you feel worried or stressed. But relaxing is the exact key we need to unlock ourselves from the tunnel vision of fear effect AND to open to intuition.
I’m not talking about rushing off to an extra yoga class, locking the door so you can have me-time, or cramming in a ten-minute coffee break. Those activities end up feeling stressful in the end! We’ve been accustomed to thinking of relaxation as an activity, something else to schedule out in our planners. But relaxation is a sacred act, a simple shift in the way we are perceiving the events around us. Taking a few minutes to simply stop thinking or “go blank” is just the thing needed to reset your day and vibe. At least a few times a week, I need to take my relaxation a little more seriously. Whether it’s a bath, a walk, or just a quiet night to myself, getting away from the tunnel vision mindset stress brings on changes my view on myself and what I’m doing. The practice is sacred because, in that space which relaxation created, Soul inevitably fills.
Because nature abhors a vacuum, conscious relaxation leaves more space for Soul to fill.
Let’s get the convo started!! What are your favorite ways to open yourself back to the Divine through relaxation? Leave your comment!
I know a lot of us out there are searching for your joy, your bliss, your happiness. Don’t let my words alone stop your from that journey! But all forms of intense emotions means we are caught up in ego and story! Even joy. We aren’t meant to live from the highs, but we are meant to be happy. Click the video to see where the balance is between being happy and being presently centered.
Learning to let go and let your feelings flow through you enable you to flow along with emotion, instead of getting bogged down trying to hold on to that state. This practice is easier to learn when your happy, but you can also learn to do it for more depressive thought-feeling states. Emotions will always be part of our experience as humans, and they are sacred messages about our degree of centeredness in the moment, but that doesn’t mean we have to make all decision based on an extreme feeling. Extreme feelings will always pass and fade, which is just one more indication that they aren’t the truth of who you are, nor do they define you!
On Day 3 Gabby talks about choosing to come from the mindset of “There is always a loving perspective.”
There is a lot to say about just this one day’s lesson. I think it actually took me months to have the breakthrough she is talking about in this chapter, where choosing the loving way is an actual option, and I don’t know how long it took to me to get back to the place where it was the automatic choice. And this is not to say I was angry or bitter. Most of the time I was choosing to be neutral in my emotional response, but not neutral in my judgment. It was my judgment that had to change I had to learn to feel past the initial knee jerk “good” or “bad” situational assessment. That meant learning how to loving hold fight or flight on pause until I got a more guided, more wise, perception of how things would play out. But once I began to actively choose love, my reactions once again changed.
The first block I ran into was the idea that choosing love, being openly loving, was all rainbows and wishy-washy enabling. It wasn’t that because we are talking about Divine love. What I saw through the lens of Divine Love was pain. And even in Divine Love, it’s not cool to throw around your emotions or push them off onto others, but when I’m in Divine Love I see clearly what is going on. I can see that’s it’s pain the other is responding to and that it’s not my pain at all…and even more, I didn’t have much to do, if anything at all, with the pain they are in. Even if had been words that triggered it in them, it was still their pain, not mine. I didn’t feel the guilt or inclination to take their pain on at all. But I did feel greater love, like a parent wishing they could soothe an anxious child.