Weekly Guidance: December 19th 2016: Move from center

weekly guidance: dec 19: Move from center

 

With the New Year right around the corner, this week is going to feel ACCELERATED. With that energy, there is also the energy of the Equinox and Merc. retrograde beginning. There will be a lot of stuff good and “ohhhh” cropping up this week. The main thrust of my post this week is to stay in center and go at the speed of spirit. Many of us are already gearing up for holiday crunch time, with both Yule and Christmas this week.  Even though things will be speeding up, the Universe most certainly doesn’t want to you miss out on all the holiday fun!

Elizabeth Peru says in her Ultimate Retrograde guide, that during Mercury retrograde we become the messengers for the Divine. Retrograde doesn’t have to feel like a crazy time. We need to be in-tune and true is what is moving through us. That might mean going a little slower. It might mean giving up the idea of the “perfect” holidays for something that feels closer your heart’s home and vibe. The card draws for this week really reflect that outcome if we give into the crazy, rushed feeling the week might inspire. But, Loves, we are never outside of the perfect moment and perfect place for our Be-coming. The only thing that separates us from that harmonious feeling is being able to relax back into the moment, letting go of past and future worry.

Getting in-sync with this everyday miraculous state of BE-ing and joy, might be just the grounding you need to get clarity on your next steps or what’s been holding you back. While Mercury Retrograde, might on the surface, have you feeling more doubtful or worried if you’re on the right track, this is the exact energy you will need in order to review your thoughts and get clarity on the what’s and how’s of your doings.

Weekly Reflection:

Just one more week, Souls, and we get to wrap up this year of crazy growth!! What will you have this year ultimately mean for you? What would make this year’s surprises and re-balancing feel like the most perfect thing for your soul growth?

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What would make this year's surprises and re-balancing feel like the most perfect thing for your soul growth?

Weekly Guidance: Oct 3rd: Love in action

Weekly guidance oct 3rd Love in action

 

On behalf of the Divine and all the guardians and guides, love, this week I ask you to not take things personally!!

This is going to be a week where we will confront a lot of shadow work revolving around our relationships and our self-worth. Depending on what blocks and strange flows you have in your reality and energy system, it might seem like a week of fighting, a week of having your value challenged, or a week where doing your normal routine of getting out there won’t seem enough. This is the Universe trying to send you a message, but it’s not a message about why you deserve to fail. Instead, it’s a message of where you need to apply copious amounts of self-love and compassion. Now that we have that cleared up, I also want to say that what will come up this week is also meant to change our thinking.

I didn’t say to rethink your commitment. We’ve worked really hard over the last two month to hone and clarify what we are committed to. Venus and Mars are going to showing us the areas that need to be brought into alignment so that our commitment to our work and higher purpose can flow even stronger. This isn’t’ a test either. It’s a week where the energies are going to give the direct consequences and result that our thinking is producing. In each moment and exchange, we have the ability to create the reality we want. It’s a matter of changing our thinking around “obstacles”.

This week, we need to heed the internal compass we have been building up over the eclipse season. This internal compass is the vision or sense of how things are supposed to feel. If reality isn’t measuring up to what you envisioned, then it’s time to change your thinking around what you are doing. If you experience this, it’s time to dig a little deeper into our expectations of ourselves and others. Quality of mind and the emotion we put behind our efforts is the real key to our manifestation. We need to be centered enough to hold our center and come from an already incredible place. We cannot wait until something or some time is more perfect. We need to keep our desired feelings in the forefront of our mind and create reality from there. The quality of our thinking defines our success, and this week will provide opportunities to see where we need to change the quality of our thinking. Use your dreams as the reference point for your internal compass.

So if this week, you get feeling a little insecure or worried. Stop. Don’t engage in triggered feelings. Instead get curious about how to shift your quality of mind, because you are most likely in a mental state isn’t going to serve you well.

 

Reflection for the week of Love in Action:

weekly guidance love in action are you in a quality of mind you can trust

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Is your relaxation time sacred? –Practices that matter series

Relaxation is sacred

It surprised me that relation came up, as I plotted and planned out this month’s series “Practices that matter”. It hadn’t been my first choice. I thought perhaps I would talk more about centering, grounding, soul embodiment, and so forth. Things you’ve heard me talk about before. But as I lived out my practices, I found that relaxation is what I really needed, and therefore probably needed to talk about. The guidance you get for yourself, usually is the guidance that will help others too, right?! 😉

Stress is part of our survival mechanism. I’m sure we’ve all read enough articles to know that stress is not a place that long-term stress is not good for the vessel. The ironic part is that our brain can’t actually tell the difference between high stress and high excitement or joy. Both states trigger similar reactions in our body. This means that we, our thinking, is the only thing interpreting whether a situation is good or bad. While both happiness and stress can trigger similar reactions, only stress has long-lasting negative effects on our natural spiritual connection. During stress, we are so busy trying to protect ourselves that our attention focuses almost solely on the physical. In other words, our natural balance between physical and soul automatically shifts toward the physical, making it harder to hear or understand guidance. Being so focused on just that one state of being that creates a tunnel vision effect in our thinking and perception. This state of mind is hard to break if we don’t know the difference between fear-based thinking and intuition. It can make our thinking AND our guidance muddled.

when you block your loving perspective with fear, you cut off your connection to miracles. This is why you need to learn to relax in the face of stress and chaos

 

Einstein said that we cannot solve our problems with the same thinking that created them. When we stay in the stress state, we are tunnel visioned into the thinking that created the block. It is only when we can tune back into Soul and Divine self that we begin to more clearly access intuition and wider perspective. I know that it’s going sound a little impossible to relax when you feel worried or stressed. But relaxing is the exact key we need to unlock ourselves from the tunnel vision of fear effect AND to open to intuition.

I’m not talking about rushing off to an extra yoga class, locking the door so you can have me-time, or cramming in a ten-minute coffee break. Those activities end up feeling stressful in the end! We’ve been accustomed to thinking of relaxation as an activity, something else to schedule out in our planners. But relaxation is a sacred act, a simple shift in the way we are perceiving the events around us. Taking a few minutes to simply stop thinking or “go blank” is just the thing needed to reset your day and vibe. At least a few times a week, I need to take my relaxation a little more seriously. Whether it’s a bath, a walk, or just a quiet night to myself, getting away from the tunnel vision mindset stress brings on changes my view on myself and what I’m doing. The practice is sacred because, in that space which relaxation created, Soul inevitably fills.

Because nature abhors a vacuum, conscious relaxation leaves more space for Soul to fill.

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Let’s get the convo started!! What are your favorite ways to open yourself back to the Divine through relaxation? Leave your comment!

May Cause Miracles: Day 5 The F word- Self-Forgiveness

self-forgiveness means showing up for happiness

 

Today I vlogged my thoughts on Self-forgiveness from May Cause Miracles. I have to say, it felt so good to say those thoughts on forgiveness and my experience of Self-forgiveness from a Soul perspective out loud. There was so much ick this last month that could have seriously grounded me. Being an empath and intuitive, knowing things isn’t always my friend.  But being able to forgive myself and my own expectations on myself, meant I was able to fully to commit to what the moment brought me. No judgment of “good” or “bad” about what that moment contained could sway the peace I felt in sensing and knowing that I was where I needed to be.

 

 

What had really shocked me when I began to come into my soulful nature, was that what the Divine and my Guides and Guardians held me responsible for…and what they forgave me for. I had been holding myself up to such high expectations….those expectations had nothing whatsoever to do with how the Divine knew me. They had been purely ego. And being only ego, they melted away when Truth came to be realized. What are you holding yourself to, which may not be True about your nature?  What are you beating yourself up about, that might have nothing to do with you?  What innocent thing are you punishing yourself for?

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Dealing with high energies like eclipses and retrogrades

Dealing with high energies like eclipses and retrogrades

 

With the high energies from this last week, like many other sensitives out there, I just couldn’t seem to get a grip on myself. Old issues, old words, judgments against myself swirled through my head day and night. And for no particular cause and effect reason. And I was utterly exhausted from the tumultuous night-time forays into my past. I was sorely tempted to be more than a little grumpy.

I will say this upfront I don’t believe the Universe gives us things or circumstances to make us suffer. And I will also say that each of these periods of time have different effects. Listening to resources like Elizabeth Peru or Mystic Mama can give you an idea of the types of themes that might get visited during each of these high energy periods. 

Let’s take a quick example here, Mercury appears to go retrograde every couple of months. It varies in length. Generally speaking, Mercury in retrograde t means there will be less than direct energy in the realms of communication and travel. Does it mean awful things will happen to you? No more than any other time. Does it mean you will get into a fight or miss your flight, maybe. But those could happen at any other time as well. It does mean that if you have issues or triggers around communication you will be given chances to recognize it and clear it. Maybe you need to learn to speak your needs, stand up for yourself, or get clarity on why you always seem to feel misunderstood.

 

 

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I know when things seem to go wrong, we want to let our most immediate reaction lead. We want to yell, scream, sigh in frustration, or stomp around the house while we look for our phones, trying to get the car to start, or calling the cable company because the internet is on the fritz.

But I want you to realize something.

Just recognizing this state of off-ness is the point where you need to think about going to take a bubble bath or grabbig a novel, instead of pushing forward with anything serious.

It’s during times, when the whole world seems more chaotic than usual, that we fall back into a bad habits. We think that we have done something wrong, it must be us, maybe we’re being punished. We want to react badly, chuck our good intentions out the window, because we don’t actually believe we are enough, able to cope without falling apart, and/or things won’t go our way unless we make it go our way. But isn’t it funny how the printer always seems to break when we are rushing to get something done or during a retrograde?  Or is that we are already operating under duress and aren’t able to get into a flow state that would help us get around small problems? It’s the thinking, the fear, that is driving this. Planetary bodies can break printers.

Mercury did not come down and take sledge hammer to your printer. Not psychically, not cosmically, not even as an allegory!

 

What I usually find when shifting back to this a Soul-centered state is just how hard I’ve been pushing my agenda on the Universe. I wasn’t in flow, like I thought I was. When we’re coming a low vibe, that pushing or controlling of our flow state actually begins to impair our ability to flow rather quickly. The more drained and discouraged we feel, the more off we get and into fear or insecurity. The further from Soul and center, the faster the downward spiral.

 

But our thoughts and plans that’s all simply expectation and conjecture. Our wounded inner child having a fit because it’s afraid of feeling hurt.  Ego, our potential threat alarm system, doesn’t actually know if there is a threat or not. All it really knows is that we are feeling upset and there must be a reason. So it makes all sorts of guesses as to why that could be. The truth, however, lies in integrating Soul into your daily living and into your problem solving.  Preferably before we take the sledge hammer to the printer!

 

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And that is the gift of the high energy periods we have throughout the year.  Soul-self is being strengthened so that we can more easily see how we’ve allowed our wounded inner children to run our lives. In the daily grind of things, our connection with Soul can get muddled. During the high energy periods, Soul brought into our awareness. That transition feels chaotic to us because our inner children don’t understand why we can’t give them the reigns again, at least at first. The tantrum our inner children might throw may seem more exaggerated because Soul is trying to put things back into perspective. The gift in these high vibe times, also comes in learning to love into that fear and love our inner wounded child. On the surface this may sound just another call for more self TLC, but this goes deeper.

We have spent many years in self-abusive judgment patterns, layers upon layers of shame and guilt. The high energies times are working to strip away these layers. It might seem uncomfortable, we may get triggered. But once we understand what’s being worked on and what fear-based beliefs challenged, the process becomes more natural. When we are able to love our fears for what they are, simple messages about where we need more love in our lives, then there is no struggle or resistance to these high-energy times. These retrogrades, eclipses, and other astrological events become miraculous and healing.

 

 

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Letting go of negative thought

letting go negative thought

Today I am all tripped and triggered with negative thought. Old stories, repeating patterns of hurt keep cycling through my mind and being. It still amazes me how quickly the body reacts to perceived stress. In an instant my shoulders are pulled up to my ears. My stomach is rumbling like I’m about to go down a roller coaster hill. And my chest is constricted, heavy from the shame of having to be in the same place….yet again. For the me today the story is about money, my worth, what it all means.

And just as quickly Soul interrupts my small wounded child inside, “Those are just negative thoughts, fears talking. It’s not like that.”  Soul is being gentle today. 

 

But my small wounded child needs to rant a little bit more. I dip down into the realms of the worst of the worst that could happen. I cry. I let it all out. I make sure it’s good and released out there, every need, every fear, every askance that this stumbling point be transmuted.

But then I stop everything and see what is left. The silence extends toward infinity. There is no more fear, there is just me and the moment. And in that space I see that my little outburst of fear only delayed and upset me. It might have given me some internal juice, the fire to go forward again and makes things right. But even then, it’s only fuel. The real magick is in the trust I have in this moment, in this silence, that the turmoil that I experience is momentary, ephemeral.

 

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In that spaciousness of soul, I commit to true act of letting go. I remove my attachment to the outcome I think I want. I let it go as my THOUGHT about what will make me feel happy and make me feel secure. My attachment is to money and to the feeling of having a stash in reserve. But these are just things and ideas, and are not capable of giving me the feelings I am demanding of them. When I hone on duality of secure and insecure, my mind travels to the obvious. My lights are on, I am at my laptop, my house is keeping the cold rain off my head, I hear my dogs scratching at the door wanting to cuddle….there isn’t one thing in this room and in this present moment that gives me feelings of insecurity. The insecurity was only thought, a form of comparison self-torture. It’s not needed or helpful.

Soul chuckles and asks “Now what?”

Insecurity is only thought, a form of comparison self-torture

 

I smile at my inner guidance. While I am only guaranteed this moment, and perhaps the next, I love how Soul challenges me to believe that from one moment to next amazing things could happen. In the next potential laden moment, I know what my commitment must be. I must be able to meet each potential, to be ready to welcome a new client, to see with the soft eyes of soul where need is, and how I can serve the moment. Any inclination of worry over my security begins to fall away, for I cannot meet change from a place of worry or insecurity, and expect to run with it. And my wanting to follow where Soul leads, to step into my destiny, is far greater than any momentary fear I might have experienced.

 

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Focusing when there’s a thousand things on my plate: kicking overwhelm in the butt

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At the beginning of this year, I should have been suffering massive overwhelm. I had been in the middle of a huge business mindset class, beginning to re-brand Super Secret Powers, keeping up with all the daily stuff, and traveling to an hour  (both ways) 3-4 days out of the week to visit a loved one in the hospital. My relationship to overwhelm before that time had been one of sulking resignation. Being sensitive, I took on my own overwhelm and the overwhelm and frustration around, making any period of overwhelm absolutely miserable for me and everyone around me. I always seemed to hit a chunk of overwhelm and slowly grind to halt and hating on the fact that, yet more thing, didn’t work out. It didn’t matter how excited I had been about doing something, the moment I hit a bit of friction in the journey to get something done I took it as a signal that it was’t going to work out. After years of stress and worry and craziness, I think I have finally nipped overwhelm in the butt!!!

Now overwhelm can be overwhelming and there are a few different ways one can feel overwhelm, so for this post let’s just talk about the ack of too many things and not enough time. You might hate me for this post, rail against me saying “that coach doesn’t understand my life, it’s complicated!” But bear with me, I didn’t think this mindset would work when I first heard it either. So let’s do this quick, like pulling a band aid off!

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It’s when we are saying:

  • I don’t think I can do this
  • I don’t know if I can handle this
  • How I am supposed to do all this

The thing all these statements have in common is that they are focused on some aspect of not knowing and doubt about enoughness. We experience these doubts when we aren’t sure we have enough, are enough, or can be enough do deal with life according to our expectations. It’s a clarity problem and it’s an expectations problem, and rarely doesn’t it say or mean anything about our intrinsic value (not matter what our wounded egos are freaking out about). Our intrinsic value has nothing to do with the things we are unclear about. We are not unlimited beings, we’re mortal after all, but we are Souls connected to Divine Source. For me this came to a huge realization that when it came to mindset and HOW I was capable of being, that I was only as limited as my mind (wounded ego or 8 yr old inner me) told me I was. I still had the same 24 hours, after all. Nothing about time had changed from one day to the next. Only my thinking had changed.

I believe that emotions are signals our soul uses to tell when we’re in center and of center, in sync with the world or out of sync. Overwhelm is certainly a signal of being out of center and out of sync. But I don’t think I was interpreting it the right way before, I think I was taking it way too personally (which is a hallmark trait of a sensitive person, btw). Overwhelm wasn’t/isn’t telling me or you that we need to stop what we’re doing, it’s asking to get more clear on the “why” of it all. I was committed to seeing these things through. In my case, I didn’t have the option of not doing these things. I spent the money for the class. I chose to make my loved one a big priority. I knew needed to make some changes to how I was going about business building. I was committed. If you’re not committed, then it’s to figure out what it is you CAN commit to and believe we can find a way through. If you are not committed to one end point or another, then no amount of good why’s is going to get you much further. Overwhelm asks to dig deeper, to go into some uncharted or maybe a little scary emotional waters. It asks us to explore our actual capabilities, not just what we think we are capable of. That takes a sense of committed to the adventure of the journey before us to navigate in a emotionally healthy way. One can play commitment leap frog to begin making progress, giving a little faith, a little attention to one small commitment, to see where it goes. But in order to overcome more weighty obstacles, one needs to build up the commitment steam and momentum before they give the big hill a go.

And it helped to get really really specific about what it is that we’re feeling lacking over. Is it really time? Or is it space to breathe and think? Is it about actually doing something, or is it a fear of getting frustrated and further into overwhelm? When we are in overwhelm we are not getting or giving ourselves the time and support we need in order to be in a good place to deal with the tasks ahead. The whole cycle of overwhelm is based on doubt, but then as we decline in feeling well, because we’re so stressed out, we take that some sort of sign.

Overwhelm was never meant to be a stop or slow sign. We don’t necessarily need to “do less” or even “simply”.

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For me, during that really intense period back in January, I doubted that I pull it all off without getting sick, without stressing out, and without freaking out. I took the time to figure out what needed to improve to make my fears and doubt a non-issue. I was afraid of getting sick (and therefore being miserable) so I got more serious about my supplements and wellness routines (couldn’t have done any of it without my essential oils). So now I had the energy to tackle what I needed to tackle, but there were lingering doubts of how I wouldn’t let irritability or fear insert it’s control. I had to really sit back and set some large core desired feeling state goals for this time period. In all the traveling and reinvention of my business, I wanted it feel joyful and loving. I needed to be on the ball for the visits, for the class, for the homework, and for the dreaming into what my new messaging could be. I knew those were my focal points, but I knew I didn’t want to push way through them either. Sure some stuff got put on back burners and I was tired after long and full days, but with my wellness and feelings of security and joy in the forefront, that whole crazy period felt magickal. And it wasn’t the arrangement of appointments, the weather, the little actions that happened that made that time “good” or “bad”. What made the difference was that I recognized what I felt was missing, the things in me that doubt was speaking to, and built a better self care routine, to that I had the energy, emotional space, and clarity in order to keep moving forward.

There is also a lot to be said about acceptance in this. When I knew how I wanted to feel during this, I was able to drop the pity me kind of stories that might have put up resistance to being open and flexible. Staying in joy, also meant that I needed to untroubled, in a state of receptivity to the what the moment brings. And in that I also saw how each and every moment, the only place we actually LIVE from, is the perfect place to be, to begin from, to say YES to. It would only be my fears and self doubt that made me think that each moment is not part of the flow of all that is around me, that I was somehow out of sync. And that is the lie we all believe from time to time, that we are not part of the whole. When really all we need is to believe we are and find a way to support our direct knowing and experience of this infinite potential.

 

 

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