How to know if you need some boundary work

Do you even have any idea what your boundaries are?

 

For Empaths and Intuitives, sometimes boundaries can be a tricky issue.  If you are stuck in caregiver, fix-it, or ultimate healer mode, then most likely your boundaries can use some strengthening. 

For me boundaries are the edges of our comfort zone, the space where our natural resilience or place of power rests. When we go through a dark night, period of low vibe, or even depression, our boundaries are going to be low as well. We won't have the natural buffer or tolerance for tackling challenges. But when are feeling good, flowing, and high-vibe, we can take more on and get more stuff down. Boundaries are directly related to how we feel!

Here are some common misconceptions about boundaries:

  • They are static, never changing: We change our minds and hearts many times in life. Our boundaries and comfort zones changes as we do. What might be a real problem for us, can see easy-peasey to deal with in our 30's. 
  • There is always one fixed boundary to hold: That is an ideal, not reality. Each day we wake in new situations, new energies, new circumstances. We can't expect our boundaries to always be in the same place, much like we can't always count on our emotions being in the same place. We have to learn to lean to what feels flowing and comfortable each day, and seek to expand a little outside our comfort zone when we're feeling a little contracted or it feels like our energy has shrunk.
  • Boundaries keep us safe: This is much like thinking a magick wall or bubble of energy will actually stop bad guys from hurting us. It doesn't work like that on this physical plane. Boundaries, like our emotions are signal for when we are in and out of comfort zone, no more, no less. It's important information to have, but it's not all that a lot of books about psychic protection make it out to be. 

Here are some quick tips to know if you need boundary work!!

How to know if you need more boundary work

 

You need boundary work if:

You feel overwhelmed

You need boundary work if:

You feel rushed or pushed to make a decision or response.

You need boundary work if:

You feel attacked, defensive, like someone is trying to blame, judge, or push their energy or opinion on you.

How to work with your boundaries:

  1. Recognize you are getting some boundaries signals.
  2. Identify what is being triggered in you, what emotions are you mirroring? What is the cause or fear you or the other person is reaction?
  3. Ask yourself whether you agree or disagree with the line of thought, conclusion, or judgment. Is the fear based on any facts whatsoever?
  4. Give their fear love, give yourself love, and bless the situation around their fear. Remember it might not be yours to fix, but if you can show them you understand their fear, you can usually diffuse the knee-jerk reaction taking place.

expand your boundaries

 

This technique works because it raises our vibe and keeps us from absorbing the other person's emotions, reality, and/or fear. Our boundaries get triggered because we feel we are about to lose something, our time, our energy, our sense of comfort. Most times we have a knee jerk reaction to that kind of thing. But if we can come into awareness about what is happening, we can center back into our comfort zone and start to expand our boundaries so we can handle more. Being able to receive more in life is one of the keys to manifestation that can accelerate your dreams!!!

September month and Weekly Guidance: August 28th, 2017: Dream big and take big action. The Universe wants to rise to meet you!

Weekly Guidance: Dream big and take big action.

Feeling better now that Saturn is stationed direct in Sagittarius?

I know I am. Now that Saturn is moving direct in Sagittarius again, I feel like things can flow again with getting too weird or out there with random crazies. I also feel that things are up to me again, not simply the Universe. As if by consciously putting myself out there in the Universe I can get some results toward my intentions that I can actually bank on. Focus, aim, and inner healing are the theme of the week, not just this Saturn period.

Everyone is feeling more free, so remember to keep your on and off duty boundaries, as the "Be vigilant" card from the Messenger Oracle deck reminds us. It's not our job to guide people through every second of their live and decisions. Sometimes just letting people know we have faith in them is really all that is needed. We have to take care of us first, get our stuff done first, and give from our excess. And the Universe is counting on us to take of our stuff, our mission, this week.

Thursday and Sunday are Master 22 days, so we're going to have cosmic support to get things DONE! Mama Earth (the Mawu card) and the tarot card "the world" remind us this can be an awesome week, nourishing, moving toward blossoming if we can release our fear of getting bitten in the ass or the crazy idea that we can heal everyone else.  These are the patterns we need to free ourselves from, so we feel fully supported and justified in taking care of ourselves.

"The Ghostlands" card from the Enchanted Map deck asks us to stop comparing NOW to the past. We are never really reliving a past pattern, as each moment is a new and different place and time. Our glory days aren't only in the past either, we need to taking Inspired and creative action to make those kinds moments are of our present lives. What you are experiencing nostalgia for are the things that we are being called to bring into our current lives, not from the direct past experience, but from where we're currently at. 

 

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Some crystals to help you focus your energy this week could be:

Malachite (to keep us grounded, inspired action), Sodalite (to help boost our voice as we finish up Merc retro), and Blue Topaz (for helping you tune into the energies coming through).

 

Useful internal work for the week:

Take a real good look at whats working and why that seems to be. We're almost out of Merc retro, only one week and a few days, we're going to be able to solidify plans quickly now. Make sure you're recording what you are doing, making note of how smoothly you can turn some of your eclipse inspirations and opportunities into a regular and positive thing for you.

 

 

Cards drawn for this week:

Mawu: Mother Earth: You are called upon to help with Environmentalism.

Ghostlands

Be Vigilant

The world

Thought of the week

Dream big and take big action. The Universe wants to rise to meet you!

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September Guidance:

This month of integration is going be like a soulful Homecoming. Now that the dust has settled on the big Eclipse action we might be asking what on Earth it all meant, what all that hoopla was about. Well it was more than a simple string of bad luck or chaos. And we've got all September to begin to take part what did happen. And as some of our retrograde go direct over this next month, all those changes we wanted to see happen are going to come to the forefront. Eclipses aren't necessarily about beginning new things, but the second half of Mercury retrograde is. And this is where we currently are. 

All the ideas and inspiration can now begin to to be put into motion. You have all month to play around and find out what works, but what you focus on this week and next week are going to an extra dose of manifestation power!!

 

 

Cards drawn for the month:

AEracura: Blossoming: You are just getting started, have patience with yourself and the process, and don't give up.

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September Guidance

What does this mean for the lightworker Soulpreneur, the biz goddess?

 

This might be a week for:

  • Either moving forward, slow and steady, or finally making some decisions about how to move forward slow and steady.
  • Pay attention to new things seem to be working for you or helping you gain more traction. These are clues as to where we need to invest more time and attention over the coming month.
  • Some Core Desired Feeling or Energetic key work might be good this week, as the past comes up to remind us of the good times. Just remember to not compare the past to now, we are looking how we can weave in some new energies into what we are doing now, that might have served us well in the past.

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