Why can’t I trust my intuition??

Why can't I trust my intuition

Our bodies are amazing. We contain two opposing forces, Intuition and ego, the balance of which ensure we take the best action possible for our survival and growth.

....As long as we're coming from our balance of wholeness as integrated beings.

If  we're out of balance with our wholeness, ego and fear are going to:

  • Stop you in you tracks with analysis paralysis and confusion over details and "how" questions.
  • Distract you from the real work and healing that is needed.
  • Delay everything you've been trying to work for and manifest.

And you probably won't even realize that's what's happening because it will feel like:

  • Your doubts and confusion are justified.
  • You did the "next logical step", basically what everyone else does, and you can put your faith in following the herd and gaggles of teachers out there.
  • There is just something wrong with you, that you can't get the with program, stop being so sensitive, or that you can never seem to toughen up enough to make real head way.

 

But that is exactly when and why you need to put your integrated, whole, lightworker-self first.

Here's how I got Fiercely Sensitive and started really standing in my own light!!

Because the "next logical step" might only be logical for you if you are approaching it from a place of abundance, instead of fear or desperation.

Because maybe the Universe is waiting on your to take inspired action before the next step in the plan will even make sense or get delivered to you.

Because maybe you need to be deep in your power, confidence, self-value, and guidance to make the next step work.

 

 

 

 

Because maybe being fierce and going after your your dreams REQUIRES your tender, compassionate, whole heart...your authentic sensitivity.

We are not meant to live solely in ego or fear. Nor are meant to live solely in the spiritual high of being in-tune with guidance and soul. We need to become integrated beings who can:

  • Trust guidance and intuition, who can act on inspired action and grow into the results we wish to manifest.
  • Curate our thoughts and beliefs to maintain our vibration and energy levels.
  • Let our fierce open-heart lead.

 

Staying in the patterns of Intuition hit or miss, mistrust, or frustration from trying to decipher every exacting detail of an intuitive hit is going to keep you in fear. It cannot solve the trust problems. Only taking a leap and creating inspired action can bring us the proof we seek.  There is never a perfect time, perfect place in life in which to begin this level of trusting, other than the only time we have...right now. 

 

None of this requires hours upon hours of meditation, years of healing and therapy, or beating yourself up. 

 

All that being Fiercely Sensitive actually requires is being okay within yourself in this moment, to say "I hear you, keep talking..." to Spirit. 

 

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What to do when you’re unsure: Spiritual discernment for biz goddesses part 3

Learning a little discernment around your empathic and intuitive signals can go a long way to helping stay in flow and in attunement with your inner biz priestess. In part 2 of this series, we talked all about what it might feel like to get an intuitive "maybe" signal. In this part, part 3, we'll dive a little deeper into what to do when you're maybes are stronger than your yes or no signals.

 

When you've gotten into a place where you have more "maybe" signals than direct "yes" or "no", the mind kicks in to rebel against being in the position of not knowing the answer.

The mind will tell you that you are:

Blocked Frustrated
Overwhelmed Writer's block
Confused Not clear

And while, yes, it does feel frustrating to be "blocked", those stories about why you can't simply move forward, make a choice, don't help you discern what to do next.

From an energetic perspective, a quandry of "maybe" signals can easily create a situation where we are paralyzed, overcome stagnant energy. The best cure for stagnant energy is to create movement!

The thing is "maybe" is not the problem we think it is. We have a tendency to jump to the conclusion that maybe means "no", simply because it's not an immediate yes. We shrink back because we’ve got some story or excuse about why it’s not an instant go, when we should be making the small choices we are sure about, and looking for patterns in the rest. We need to learn to work our own process for coming to intuitive clarity instead of stopping.

We have be open to potential in order to see it more clearly.  As entrepreneurs we can't afford to be afraid of the bigness of the vision before you, the work it might take, or the depth of the project. It all has to be completed in the moment, piece by piece, word by word. You owe it to yourself to take a step back and get back to being open, because maybe means there is potential waiting for you to more clearly tap into.

Getting many maybe's is actually part of your intuitive process. It doesn't mean your idea sucks, that you are a hack, or that you are worthless because you have no follow through. That state of unsurity only means you have yet to see the bigger picture. While it feels more natural to shrink away from the uncomfortable unknown, we can't shrink in the face of maybe's.  We have grow, grow our vision larger, our idea of who we are and what we are capable of.

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The biggest tip I stand behind is that of paying attention to your own process. Understanding how you already work your intuitive and creative problems solving process can help you create rituals to keep you flowing.

  • What do you usually do to get clarity?
  • When do your best ideas seem to hit you?
  • What are you doing or even when during the day do your brightest a-ha moments dawn on you? 
  • Are there any patterns in this that you can learn to play with to create a more flowing connection to your intuitive guidance?

Thanks for following this series on Spiritual Discernment for the Soulful Biz!

You can click here to see Part 1: A Quick Guide to Intuitive Insights  and here to see Part 2: Why the IntuitiveYES sometimes leads to failure  to better refine your understanding of intuitive signals and how to interpret them more clearly.

Why the intuitive Yes sometimes leads to a fail: Part 2 of spiritual discernment for the soulful biz series

Learning a little discernment around your empathic and intuitive signals can go a long way to helping stay in flow and in attunement with your inner biz priestess. In part 1 of this series I broke down the basic three types of intuitive guidance or signals we all experience. In this article we'll look at some of the reasons something which felt so good, so amazing when it came through didn't pan out in the end.

 

The one thing we have to remember, which we talked about in the last article, is that all guidance in meant to be acted on in the moment. But once you've made some steps on the magickal feeling idea, you are now in a different place with it. Does that mean your new project could suddenly become a no-go?

Quite possibly.

It would depend on what you discovered in your last steps of inspired action.

The biggest problem is that we seem to default to this idea that a stupendously feeling green light signal is true always and forever after that moment.  If we are totally on board with the idea, we also seem to default to the idea that a green light means we will succeed or that our project will be the bestest thing ever in the history of good ideas.

We resist the knowing that all ideas need to be developed, honed, refined, worked at. We want our successes to come easily, so we assume that a green light means we have a project that will be a homerun. While very generally speaking, this could be true. We could continue to get green light through all phases of the project and things might just turn out pretty darn spanking for us. 

Most of the time it doesn't. Most of the time a "no" signal or a "hmmm...maybe" signal creeps us on us and we don't even realize it.  We don't realize it because we think we're stuck, have writers block, can't figure something out, our follow through has petered out, or we have lost focus. With that comes the stories about how it's all about our value, worth, or intelligence. 

An intuitive maybe does not mean no or stop

Those "maybe" signals aren't personal. Those signals have nothing to do with your those stories you tell yourself about why you feel stuck, unsure, unclear, or in resistance. It's much more simple than we make it. 

A "maybe" signal isn't a stop signal or a "no, don't do this." It's a "go slow" signal, "recheck the map" signal, "you're taking this too seriously" signal, or "you need to talk to people about this" signal. Maybe feelings mean that something off and needs to be corrected. But that doesn't mean your project or idea is garbage. It just needs to be worked or developed more. 

 

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The intuitive maybe could mean...

The "No" or "don't go there" signal is a strong signal. Our guard will go up, we will reject the idea outright, it's instinctual. Both the "go signal and the "stop" signal are strong and clear so we recognize them easily. It's everything in between hard "yes" and "no" that trips us up. Any uncomfortable feeling less than that hard "no", is a maybe signal.

A lot of times our personal stories can muddle what is a rather straightforward piece of guidance. If we can take a step back from making a conclusion about our worth and understand, so that we understand that we are simply being asked to reconsider something or make a tweak to how we are talking or creating our new idea, we won't feel stuck nearly as much.

 

As we continue in this series of Spiritual Discernment for the Soulful Biz, we'll take a deeper look at how to further step into role of biz priestess and make powerful choices for the temples of service we are building.

A guide for quick intuitive business insight: Part 1 of spiritual discernment for the soulful biz series

Learning a little discernment around your empathic and intuitive signals can go a long way to helping stay in flow and in attunement with your inner biz priestess. With all the energy and information we are privy to each moment being able to have a quick way to categorize your intuitive and empathic insights is one the of the first ways to cut yourself a huge break.

 

Intuitive guidance doesn't lead to an "end point", instead it guides us toward further growth, which in turn leads us to further growth. So when it comes to asking the right questions of our guidance, we have to release our wishes for a homerun program or launch and ask the deeper questions.

Questions like

Is this right for my sacred business temple?

Will this touch my soulmates?

What energy does this carry?

Can make or break your business!

NO, Stop, Don't go there: This is not a difficult sign to interpret. It's pretty friggin instinctual. It's dread, anger, feeling appalled, utter rejection.  It's strong enough to stop you in your tracks all on it's own, with no further interpretation needed. If you aren't feeling "hell, no. Don't trust this." or "Don't let that happen." then it's a yield sign, not a stop a sign.

An interesting thing is that a stop sign isn't always a stop sign forever.  Sometimes we have to work out and understand why we are having those strong emotions and reactions before we can move on again. Sometimes we will grow into our understanding of our feelings, so that we can glean something useful from the situation, despite our initial reaction to it.

Go, go, go:

This is a clear signal that you probably recognize already because it's so strong. But it can also be subtle. Really any good feeling is a "go" signal. Beyond that, all good feelings are an indication for growth and signs of the path where you're going move toward your destiny. Those good feelings reflect that truest things about you.

The one thing we have to remember is that intuitive insight won't talk about success in terms of sales and money and such. Intuitive insight comes from soul level being, it's going to talk about success in terms of health, wholeness, and joy. Those two categories don't have to be mutually exclusive, and often successful people tend to say they found their wealth success in the things that brought them soul fulfillment and joy. What most LOA and manifestation teachers tend to skip over, is that fact that business still needs to be worked from a business perspective, even if it brings you joy. You still need to be concerned about growing your following and engaging them, even if you're having fun expressing yourself in your social media.

If you are managing to do both, lead growth AND self-expression through marketing, you ROCK. That's how co-creation is supposed to work. But if either is lacking, something has to be tweaked if you want wealth success and soul success. There has be a balance between soul truth AND business technique in order to support yourself on your soul mission. Soulfulness alone isn't going to cut it. You have refine and polish your intuitive guidance, nurture those seeds of inspiration, into something viable, useful, and lovely.

Yield or Hmm, maybe:

This is an interesting signal because it can feel kind of good, but but there no flow behind it, no furthering of the potential. It can feel like mild confusion too, as if you can't quite grasp what is supposed to come next, as if it doesn't make sense just yet or the images are jumbled. It can feel good or at least neutral, like wishful thinking.

While I won't say this is true of all maybe signals, I do often find that while we might feel called to explore the next steps of a maybe signal, that it often leads us to a place we've been before and haven't had a breakthrough at. This doesn't mean we won't have a breakthrough this time, but it does mean we need to get real curious about what it's going to take to make the breakthrough happen. For instance, you have trouble selling a program and decided to write a book instead. While you may need to write the book, the book still needs to be sold. And maybe that is where your plan with the program fell down, in the selling of it. So write the book, but get real curious about what blocks and fears you have around really selling your work. Get curious about what you glean about selling from this perspective, because selling books is different than selling programs.

It might also serve you take a bird's eye perspective of all those thing you felt "maybe" about. Did any of them have a commonality around them, like they required you to hone your selling? or those maybe could have used a better understanding of your numbers or reasonable expectation of a given launch? Those "maybe" projects seem to point out where we need the most work on ourselves, our growth, and our biz priestess skills.

The last thing I want to remind everyone about is that all guidance is only ever "in the moment". Even if we get a clear vision about where things can go, the only place we can begin to tend those seeds is in the present moment. Each breath, thought, and choice will either grow those seeds or take us in another direction. The specifics of our visions can't be held on to as if they are the only things can or should happen for us. Those visions are guidance and sign posts in and of themselves, not the destination.  It's as if soul is giving as an archetypal symbol of the path we have put ourselves on. At every moment we have the choice to choose anew, to shift up the flavor of the archetype, to change our approach, or to choose a different archetype all together. But in end, it's still just a symbol. It's not the business you have in this moment.

Intuitive insight guide for the soulful business

Knowing whether a project has a stop, yield, or green light can help us set deadlines, plan, and developing our businesses and projects in a more efficient way. It also keeps out of the wish-sandwich business, where we wish our biz was a successful or profitable as we see it can be.

It keeps us asking: "How can we act on this guidance right now? Who will it serve the best today?"

As we continue in this series of Spiritual Discernment for the Soulful Biz, we'll take a deeper look at how to further step into role of biz priestess and make powerful choices for the temples of service we are building.

Being unshakable in life and biz

Being unshakable in life and biz

This weekend was the weekend before I started my big launch. I had spent a good month creating and planning, and I was ready to lay it all out there. And then... I spent all weekend doing family stuff that came up, did one birthday dinner, had an unexpected new tarot client call for an appointment on Sunday who then showed up two hours late after I cleaned the house for them, one of our cars wouldn't start, internet kept going off this morning, last night my daughter got sick all over her bed at 2:30 am, and my mother-in-law decided she needed to have a tax return crisis in the middle of my afternoon video shootings. I won't lie and say I didn't get a little ruffled.

Mischief managed: Check

As soon as I felt that black cloud over my head seriously begin to form, this time I knew better than to feed into any of that bull. None of it had anything to do with my value or worth as a lightworker. There might be some truth to the idea that because I was birthing something that had a bigger energy to it, my normal ripples got a little bigger too. There might be some truth to Merc retro and Saturn retro happening in the next week or so messing with the flows. But ya what?

It's only really as true as I make it for myself.

I let that black cloud go. Shit happens. We deal with it and move. My old pattern of listening and believing in my pity-me stories never got me anywhere but exhausted and irritable. What I needed this week was Love, tons more love. It might sound all "don't worry be happy" cliche, but when you think about the Law of Attraction, the you fixate on that black cloud, the more real that black cloud is going to get for you. 

Love is one of the highest vibrations we can bring into any mix. It doesn't have be all soft and mushy, it can be fierce and loyal. Love can be light-hearted like sharing a good joke on livestream just to brighten someone's day or it can be serious and genuine, like telling someone you believe in them. Tap into a flavor of love to dispel those storm clouds or soar above the storm, cuz the only reason that storm will stop you from moving forward, shining bright like the beacon you are, is if you believe it actually means anything more than life happening as it will!

You are more powerful than any storm or curse!

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A story of Grouse Medicine

Grouse medicine

On behalf of October, the thinning veil, Halloween and Samhain, I felt guided to share some stories from personal experience!

First up is a story about opening to spiritual gifts. Pull out a cozy blanket, get a cup of hot chocolate, and let’s pretend we’re sharing stories by the campfire!

 

This month is all about being in action with flow and guidance.

Remember to share your own stories!! You never know who will begin to open to their own gifts, or begin to heal, simply from hearing your experiences!!

 

Read the full-length story below!!


 

It is a cop out to say I was born like this. We are all born like this. Few people do not have stories of knowing who a caller was before the phone began to ring, warning dreams of death or accidents of loved ones, or some type of experience with ghosts, angels, or simply something unknown. Not many of us have the chance to realize the fullness or depth of having gifts though. For some, the idea of having gifts will never even cross their conscious mind. I didn’t truly realize this about myself until I was twenty one.

My realization started with a deck of animal totem cards. I had gotten then on a whim. They felt good to my hands and at that time I was very interested in Shamanism. Every few days I would chose a new card and place it in my student id case. This way I could carry my medicine lesson with me and get to know the cards more intimately. I had my favorites, of course. Eagle was strong and sharp eyed. Cougar was crafty and fierce. Owl and crow were messengers.

About halfway through the school year I got stuck with Grouse. I didn’t really like Grouse. I didn’t understand why I needed to hold on to Grouse’s medicine for such a long period of time. I thought I was already following the life lessons of “Find your rhythm, honor the synchronicity, spiral into your potential.” I was in collage after all, studying what I always wanted to study, and taking life as it was coming. I had even been studying and practicing shamanism. It is almost a needless pun to point out, that I was grousing about Grouse’s medicine. In an attempt to get other messages, I would draw until I got something other than Grouse. This continued until I really got stuck with Grouse as the whole deck, but Grouse, vanished from my night stand.

Months passed and a few times I had become so irked at Grouse that I tore through my room looking for the deck. Each time, the deck remained as lost as it was before. The memory of it would stick in my mind, like a word on the tip of your tongue, waiting just beyond reach to be remembered. Even though I huffed and groused that my deck had been lost, there little I could do about replacing it on my collage budget. Grouse stayed tucked into my id case.

When the end of the school year came, I cleaned from my room from top to bottom. I found my deck of animal totem cards on the bottom of my night stand. This was a place I had cleaned more than several times since I had lost the deck. But the deck sat there, as if mocking me, between a few books at the bottom of my nightstand. I had been through those books and even taken them out of the shelf. I groused even more internally through out the day as I finished cleaning and packing for the year.

I treated myself that evening by going down to my friend’s apartment for some tea and some down time. It was a bit of a ritual for us. You may take that as literally as you like, because for me, life is lived by intention and not necessarily bells and whistles. We lit the candles, had a light dinner, and waited for the brew. She and I crashed on the futon couch while we waited and eventually took in our tea. It was an odd night and my friend had other visitors, of which only she could see. After several trips out West and to a reservation in New Mexico, my friend had managed to acquire the friendship of some deceased Native Elders. The Elders had their stereotypical sense of humor and rarely were things actually calm when they felt they had something to share. Nothing about that was odd to me. I had grown up my friend, so I was used to how she worked and what she could do. But that night her friends were usually particularly antagonistic in their teasing.

That night there was a message for me. I never took their messages with grace, they usually brought out the chip on my shoulder. I groused internally as my friend began to laugh while imparting the message. Because she was laughing and her invisible friends were laughing the message didn’t come through in full, but she repeated what she could make out. The message was something about the Grouse card.

I felt completely deflated. Not only had the deck been mocking me and my efforts to understand, now the invisible Native Americans were mocking my grousing. I sat slumped on the couch, annoyed, and explained to my friend about the grouse card I have been carrying around with me for months. I hadn’t told her the whole story of how I lost the deck and had gotten stuck with one card. My friend laughed even harder. She laughed not simply at me, but also at the commentary, that only she could hear. After they all had their laugh at me, it was time to say good night. I still had to make the trip home the next day.

I stood by my friend’s door, collecting my backpack and sweatshirt, when I heard something. Today I can’t tell you what it was, it had been an inconsequential snarfy comment. But I heard it. My friend once again cracked up laughing. The world seemed to stop in that moment, and stood up and looked at her. I asked her pointedly if they had said what I thought they had said. She agreed that was more or less what she heard. But I had heard it. I had heard their words in way that was not foreign to me. I had a similar internal voice most of my life….or at least I thought it was internal to me….

That moment brought my world to threshold I had never before considered. I now had to consider the fact that that voice that reared it’s head every so often was not simply me making stuff up when I got bored. I had to consider that those times when I thought I was zoning out, talking internally with, what I thought was a completely made up character, was not quite as made up as I had thought. This was something so internal to me, I never thought to tell anyone about. I had thought that this was not an uncommon thing, that it was like day dreaming. This process was so innate to me, that I never questioned how or why it was there.

While I am pointing out here how one instant began a realization, an awakening, process for me, the full course of learning what was real took time. It took some experimentation. To my mind, the largest shock was not really that I had been doing this listening all my life. It was that I had never really been alone. I had grown up being adopted, an only child, in between the ages of my cousins, few friends. I had grown up alone and grown up to like my alone times. The shock of the idea that perhaps I was never really ever alone, so to speak, changed my perspective in ways that are very hard to describe. One of the first things I felt I had to figure out was where I ended and other ways of being began. What was my authentic voice? What was fed to me without me realizing?

I don’t know what took me so long to see things as they are. I don’t know what really got me all blocked up from catching the hint that I was more sensitive than I knew. Today, while sometimes I forget, sometimes I get caught in the melodrama of daily life, there comes a point where I get a slap to the back of the head and askance of why I didn’t ask for help sooner. The world comes back into focus, and the patterns and cycles of things give the sight and knowledge I need to tread the deep waters of life and the strength to live my life on my own terms. My path is mine alone, given to me long ago. Laid forth by ancestors and friends. My path, my wheel of life and medicine, is the only thing that can break me, the only thing that can heal me. It is the only thing that is real. This is the medicine lesson of the honorable brother, sometimes trickster, Grouse. Find your rhythm, honor the synchronicity, spiral into your potential.

Is your relaxation time sacred? –Practices that matter series

Relaxation is sacred

It surprised me that relation came up, as I plotted and planned out this month’s series “Practices that matter”. It hadn’t been my first choice. I thought perhaps I would talk more about centering, grounding, soul embodiment, and so forth. Things you’ve heard me talk about before. But as I lived out my practices, I found that relaxation is what I really needed, and therefore probably needed to talk about. The guidance you get for yourself, usually is the guidance that will help others too, right?! 😉

Stress is part of our survival mechanism. I’m sure we’ve all read enough articles to know that stress is not a place that long-term stress is not good for the vessel. The ironic part is that our brain can’t actually tell the difference between high stress and high excitement or joy. Both states trigger similar reactions in our body. This means that we, our thinking, is the only thing interpreting whether a situation is good or bad. While both happiness and stress can trigger similar reactions, only stress has long-lasting negative effects on our natural spiritual connection. During stress, we are so busy trying to protect ourselves that our attention focuses almost solely on the physical. In other words, our natural balance between physical and soul automatically shifts toward the physical, making it harder to hear or understand guidance. Being so focused on just that one state of being that creates a tunnel vision effect in our thinking and perception. This state of mind is hard to break if we don’t know the difference between fear-based thinking and intuition. It can make our thinking AND our guidance muddled.

when you block your loving perspective with fear, you cut off your connection to miracles. This is why you need to learn to relax in the face of stress and chaos

 

Einstein said that we cannot solve our problems with the same thinking that created them. When we stay in the stress state, we are tunnel visioned into the thinking that created the block. It is only when we can tune back into Soul and Divine self that we begin to more clearly access intuition and wider perspective. I know that it’s going sound a little impossible to relax when you feel worried or stressed. But relaxing is the exact key we need to unlock ourselves from the tunnel vision of fear effect AND to open to intuition.

I’m not talking about rushing off to an extra yoga class, locking the door so you can have me-time, or cramming in a ten-minute coffee break. Those activities end up feeling stressful in the end! We’ve been accustomed to thinking of relaxation as an activity, something else to schedule out in our planners. But relaxation is a sacred act, a simple shift in the way we are perceiving the events around us. Taking a few minutes to simply stop thinking or “go blank” is just the thing needed to reset your day and vibe. At least a few times a week, I need to take my relaxation a little more seriously. Whether it’s a bath, a walk, or just a quiet night to myself, getting away from the tunnel vision mindset stress brings on changes my view on myself and what I’m doing. The practice is sacred because, in that space which relaxation created, Soul inevitably fills.

Because nature abhors a vacuum, conscious relaxation leaves more space for Soul to fill.

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Let’s get the convo started!! What are your favorite ways to open yourself back to the Divine through relaxation? Leave your comment!

Are you doing the heart work? -Soul practices that matter series

Are you doing the heart work?

 

Heart work is one of the most crucial pieces of self work any empath or intuitive can add to their practices. But it’s often the case that we use meditation and practices to band aid our emotions without really every working with them. My work is focused on the benefits of working with emotions and emotional patterns so that we can release them, not avoid them, but truly heal them. My professional work is informed by my personal practices, so don’t believe for an instant that I am talking out my ass in some academic way or that I am trying to be holier than thou. Heart work needs to be talked about more. I met a woman at a psychic circle recently who was just beginning to open up. We had been paired up, and my message for her was to release what was holding her back. As we talked, she mentioned how emotional she kept getting when she thought about her awakening. I had to tell her is was a natural thing, that our body knows how to process and cleanse. I still feel a little taken back that people still need to be told it’s okay to feel and feel deeply. Feeling deeply is a spiritual gift!!!

Just about everyday I have to do some kind of heart work. I do have one specific thing I do all the time, because each day it seems like my heart is in a slightly different place. From what I hear from others who do consciousness practices, this is a common theme. The one consistent thing that happens is that I have to sit and really ask myself where I am things, life, my work, my plans, my relationships. This asking is what informs me what meditations, clearings, shifts that I need for the day. Of course, there are days when I spend most of the afternoon shifting to high vibe, working and re-working tender feelings. The process I use is deceptively simple.

Emotions are a form of guidance we get from our physical bodies about how centered we are or aren’t. Specifically, learning to identify what we are feeling, will guide us to know what kind of self love we need to work with in the present moment, to bring raise our vibe and bring us to center.

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Emotions are not there to hold us back or to hurt us. So often when we realize we are feeling down or upset, we allow our survival instinct (monkey mind, inner critic, it has many names) to go into full blown investigative mode. This voice within us, has the job of figuring out why we are in pain and what might be causing it. But survival instinct goes a little overboard when it comes to emotions, because usually there is no physical wound, no way to know if a pattern or situation is really over or not. This makes survival instinct a poor judge of emotional pain. It simply doesn’t really understand what the feeling is about. The feelings are there to guide us back to center.

In a typical day,

  1. I will begin by taking stock of where my energy is. Am I full of energy? Feeling depleted? Feeling scattered?
  2. If I’m not full of energy, I go a little deeper. Perhaps I realize my heart is feeling a little tender around myself worth. Maybe I’m feeling resistance to putting my work on the net that day because I’m not sure I’m actually reaching people. Perhaps I’m still feeling some emotional ripples from something my husband said the night before when he was talking about money. When I find the root of the feelings, I get a sense of “ah-ha”, or even “okay, I see. I got this now.”
  3. I then release what I need to release. If something someone said or projected made some emotional ripples in my world, I have to deal with my ripples. The other person probably didn’t even know I was getting emotional ripples, they were probably just talking something out or venting. So I spend time reassuring myself that I have money in the bank and that I have every opportunity and potential to attract money to me in this day. I get really deep into my knowing and sense that even if I cannot see all the ripples I create in others and out in to the world (from the love I put out), that in the world of energy we live, it cannot be otherwise. I get deeper into my knowing that as long as I stay open to the moment, to meeting the universe, willing to be an equal receiver and broadcaster, that the universe will have my back…it’s the law of attraction. Any other thoughts are just fear worrying over getting the results my fear mind wants. I love them, and tell them “it’s okay, that’s not whats really happening here. If we want a life of love and abundance, we have try higher vibe ways of being.”
  4. After grounding in what I know to be true, and letting soul inform me of anything I might have temporarily forgotten, I fill up on love. I ask for very specific things. If I am doubting my self worth, perhaps I might ask to be shown how I can help or have helped just one single person. If I am feeling very caught up in my feelings still, I ask to be given the opportunity to share, in a real way, what my feels feel like. Sharing usually helps relieve the feelings and can help other release similar feelings.
  5. Most days I will find something to relish in, to celebrate, to embrace with intent. Even if that thing is simply that I have to chance once more to make an impact in someone’s life. There are days when the only thing I can relish in is that I get to watch silly comedies to laugh with. And that’s okay. It’s being true to my experience.

 

Doing heart work isn’t about faking it. Doing heart work is about knowing where you are, and giving yourself the love that you need! Sometimes that love looks like: boldness, relief, activated, vulnerable, conviction, freedom…it can take many forms. Honor that and you honor your most Divine Self!

It doesn’t always work on the first shot. There are certain ripples that take a few days to work with, some months and years. But the more I do it, the more I find I understand myself better. I also find that Soul’s messages get clearer. As work to clear out my heart from tenderness, confusion, stress, and so forth, I am creating more space in my daily experience for a more solid connection with soul to form. As I go through this short little exercise my relationship to emotion changes as well. I am caught up in it less, as I can recognize what is happening faster than I had before. The quicker I can become aware of my emotional ripples, generally speaking, the less I really have to suffer because of them.

 

Heart work Affirmation:

Honoring my emotional experiences, honors my Divine Self!

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7 ways to know if your spiritual practice needs an upgrade

7 ways to know if your spiritual practice needs an upgrade

 

For years my soul sister and I used to banter about what we called the “fall wall”. We had noticed that every fall there seemed to be some kind of life dilemma or challenge that came up..specifically in the fall. Thinking about this last fall and the one coming up, I realized that we had been experiencing the eclipse door that Elizabeth Peru teaches about. This particular eclipse is having us focus on our personal habits and ideas about what we are capable of.

For many sensitivities and Intuitives getting into a personal spiritual practice can be the best thing to help stabilize gifts and begin to gain momentum. So this month I really want to help you, my loves, to evaluate and maybe begin some daily practices to help make the transition into a more powerful and centered life!

Not all daily spiritual practice are equal, nor are they all meant to be a sole focus for long periods of time!

Here 4 things to consider if your spiritual practice might have you feeling a little flat or ungrounded. You might need to change up your daily practices if:

  1. Your practice is not meeting your emotional needs: Thoughts and emotions are, by their very nature, fluid and changeable. We are never coming to our day from the same place we had in the past. A good spiritual practice will be adaptable to meet us from the place we came to Spirit. But if you cannot seem to get to the open and open-hearted space we should be aiming for, then it’s probably time to try something new.
  2. Your practice makes you feel like or believe that you need to be only certain way: A spiritual practice should be adaptable to where you are and what you need. If you have a goal that takes external action (like say building a business), then your practice might need to revolve around boning up on taking lots of small inspired action, it would be like building up your manifestation muscles and habits. If your goal is more of an inward journey, your practices might more revolve around energy cleansings and heart work. The point is that not every practice will be suitable to all the goals you might want to encompass in life. While generally we should aiming for an open-hearted feeling, how we get there and what we need to do to get there, even the time it takes to release something, makes each experience new and personalized to where you are actually coming from that day.
  3. Having a hard time making choices, following guidance, or choosing change: Soul always know what you need to choose, it’s the personal mind in the body gets confused. If you are experiencing hesitation, doubt, or confusion it could very well be that the practice you are doing isn’t giving the grounding you need to bring Soul Wisdom through and into inspired action.
  4. It feels cumbersome and like a lot of work: Spiritual work does not have to be hard work. Nor does it have to be time consuming. Simpler is often better and more effective. Do only that which you need to make the shift you need at that time. Otherwise you run risk of having your practices become more like trappings than tools of substance. There are certain things that everyday you might need, like giving yourself an energy boost or grounding into soul self, but don’t ever think that you need to reach the same emotional state every time, nor spend hours trying make yourself feel only one way.

 

Sometimes it’s not the practice that’s keeping us in rut. Sometimes it’s our own willingness to work with the Earthly guidance we get (aka: our feelings)!

3 ways to tell if you need to sink deeper into your spiritual practices or take it a new level of commitment:

  1. Not satisfying, procrastination, or feeling resistance.
  2. You have guidance and inspiration, but can’t seem to focus or get it out.
  3. You are denying, burying, or avoiding your feelings.

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If you find you or your practices need a bit of a boost, not to worry! We all go through it!

Finding you need to change things up to meet your current needs is not something you need heap self-judgment on yourself over!

Follow your heart, Loves! Allow it to guide you to the practices your Divine self really needs! And keep an eye out for this month’s blog post, as I will be talking more about the practices that are my go-to activities for staying in center!

Do you need to improve your grounding practices?

Do you need to improve your grounding practices?

To be honest, when I start these article series, I don’t usually know exactly where they will lead me. This installment in my series of grounding is really no different. And I think what happens in my creative process is that I am I actually following guidance and then learning how to ground and manifest that guidance.

As I lurk around the internet I hear a lot of talk about how to improve your intuitive or psychic skills, as if they were a tool one could sharpen or a physical exercise you could perfect. I have rarely found this to be the case in my own development. Sure there are things one can do to refine their intuitive process, like figuring out how best to record your hits when you’re getting them and learning to be really really objective about exactly what you got (not just the story or interpretation of it). But the real mastery work comes in mastering the relationship between soul and vessel. And before the fear voice takes hold, I do want to say that this needs to be a holistic and balanced relationship. It’s not about turning off your emotions to be enlightened or denying what you are feeling. Your feelings are every bit a piece of guidance as your intuitive hits are.

Feelings are earth plane intuitive hits rather than Divine Love hits.  They are essential to the grounding process.

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In the last post I mentioned a concept I got from Caroline Myss’ “Anatomy of the Spirit“, below you’ll see my riff on this idea. When Guidance comes to us, it needs to travel through our body, both the physical and the energetic (it’s all one system, right?) in order to manifest. As we ground guidance, each energy point in our body is a gateway through which we test the piece of guidance to see if it’s even an option.

 

 

Grounding guidance through your body

My take on the process of grounding guidance or Divine Love, is this:

  • From Crown to root chakra we go through the process of beginning to believe this potential is within us and that it is possible, even necessary.
  • When the personalized Divine Love is brought into Earth it takes on more concrete energy, and a special kind of energy that will help give it weight and resonance in the physical world.
  • We take this transformed energy back into us, we can begin to see and understand the greater ramifications of giving birth in the physical world to such an idea, vision, or mission.
  • As this seed of destiny passes through each chakra on the way back up to birthing into our world, we begin to embody the energies needed for this task more and more. Each gateway will bring different healings/integrations/attunements to our sense of wholeness with this new version of us.
  • We when guidance is finally birthed in this world we are in a state of grace with the Divine. Clear, calm, fulfilled, but also ready to take on more guidance…perhaps even a bigger vision (because we’ve cleaned and cleared our energies and raised our vibe through the process of birthing guidance).

 

 

But sometimes we get stuck or stall in this process. Looking at the infographic above and thinking of my own guidance that is waiting to see if it will be birthed, I can tell you what at test I am stuck. I need to do more work with my lower chakras, aligning my senses of safety, pleasure, and personal will with my big vision.

Not all guidance will be brought to this world in this way. There are times when guidance enters my system, not to be birthed in and of itself, but to help raise my vibe in a certain way to help the bigger guidance move through my system. It’s like getting Divine course correction. Each attitude, mood, or feeling I am experiencing is then extremely important guidance. My feelings guide me to know what kind of work I should be doing with my energy and mindset in order to birth or manifest my vision or dream. In my example, I have to do a lot of work to release my fears and blocks about becoming overrun with stress and responsibility (becoming so uncentered I need to stop and rest) which are giving my lower chakra some trouble. But, of course, the Universe always has my back, and I can think of some present circumstances that are definitely going to help me work on some of those blocks!

Take a body test with me!

Take ten minutes or so and get into a quiet place. Let your mind and body relax and then evoke the energies of the last real big piece of guidance you got, but seem stuck with. Just sit quietly giving yourself love and observing what is going on your body when you think of this dream or vision you were given.

  • What place in your body are giving you feelings and sensations?
  • What energy centers seems to be growing or shrinking?
  • What fears or hurts come to mind? Where are those feelings located in your body?
  • What parts of your body are tense?

 

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