Why can’t I trust my intuition??

Why can't I trust my intuition

Our bodies are amazing. We contain two opposing forces, Intuition and ego, the balance of which ensure we take the best action possible for our survival and growth.

....As long as we're coming from our balance of wholeness as integrated beings.

If  we're out of balance with our wholeness, ego and fear are going to:

  • Stop you in you tracks with analysis paralysis and confusion over details and "how" questions.
  • Distract you from the real work and healing that is needed.
  • Delay everything you've been trying to work for and manifest.

And you probably won't even realize that's what's happening because it will feel like:

  • Your doubts and confusion are justified.
  • You did the "next logical step", basically what everyone else does, and you can put your faith in following the herd and gaggles of teachers out there.
  • There is just something wrong with you, that you can't get the with program, stop being so sensitive, or that you can never seem to toughen up enough to make real head way.

 

But that is exactly when and why you need to put your integrated, whole, lightworker-self first.

Here's how I got Fiercely Sensitive and started really standing in my own light!!

Because the "next logical step" might only be logical for you if you are approaching it from a place of abundance, instead of fear or desperation.

Because maybe the Universe is waiting on your to take inspired action before the next step in the plan will even make sense or get delivered to you.

Because maybe you need to be deep in your power, confidence, self-value, and guidance to make the next step work.

 

 

 

 

Because maybe being fierce and going after your your dreams REQUIRES your tender, compassionate, whole heart...your authentic sensitivity.

We are not meant to live solely in ego or fear. Nor are meant to live solely in the spiritual high of being in-tune with guidance and soul. We need to become integrated beings who can:

  • Trust guidance and intuition, who can act on inspired action and grow into the results we wish to manifest.
  • Curate our thoughts and beliefs to maintain our vibration and energy levels.
  • Let our fierce open-heart lead.

 

Staying in the patterns of Intuition hit or miss, mistrust, or frustration from trying to decipher every exacting detail of an intuitive hit is going to keep you in fear. It cannot solve the trust problems. Only taking a leap and creating inspired action can bring us the proof we seek.  There is never a perfect time, perfect place in life in which to begin this level of trusting, other than the only time we have...right now. 

 

None of this requires hours upon hours of meditation, years of healing and therapy, or beating yourself up. 

 

All that being Fiercely Sensitive actually requires is being okay within yourself in this moment, to say "I hear you, keep talking..." to Spirit. 

 

Click to learn how to find your Fierce without sacrificing your big heart!

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Why the intuitive Yes sometimes leads to a fail: Part 2 of spiritual discernment for the soulful biz series

The one thing we have to remember, which we talked about in the last article, is that all guidance in meant to be acted on in the moment. But once you've made some steps on the magickal feeling idea, you are now in a different place with it. Does that mean your new project could suddenly become a no-go?

Quite possibly.

It would depend on what you discovered in your last steps of inspired action.

The biggest problem is that we seem to default to this idea that a stupendously feeling green light signal is true always and forever after that moment.  If we are totally on board with the idea, we also seem to default to the idea that a green light means we will succeed or that our project will be the bestest thing ever in the history of good ideas.

We resist the knowing that all ideas need to be developed, honed, refined, worked at. We want our successes to come easily, so we assume that a green light means we have a project that will be a homerun. While very generally speaking, this could be true. We could continue to get green light through all phases of the project and things might just turn out pretty darn spanking for us. 

Most of the time it doesn't. Most of the time a "no" signal or a "hmmm...maybe" signal creeps us on us and we don't even realize it.  We don't realize it because we think we're stuck, have writers block, can't figure something out, our follow through has petered out, or we have lost focus. With that comes the stories about how it's all about our value, worth, or intelligence. 

An intuitive maybe does not mean no or stop

Those "maybe" signals aren't personal. Those signals have nothing to do with your those stories you tell yourself about why you feel stuck, unsure, unclear, or in resistance. It's much more simple than we make it. 

A "maybe" signal isn't a stop signal or a "no, don't do this." It's a "go slow" signal, "recheck the map" signal, "you're taking this too seriously" signal, or "you need to talk to people about this" signal. Maybe feelings mean that something off and needs to be corrected. But that doesn't mean your project or idea is garbage. It just needs to be worked or developed more. 

 

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The intuitive maybe could mean...

The "No" or "don't go there" signal is a strong signal. Our guard will go up, we will reject the idea outright, it's instinctual. Both the "go signal and the "stop" signal are strong and clear so we recognize them easily. It's everything in between hard "yes" and "no" that trips us up. Any uncomfortable feeling less than that hard "no", is a maybe signal.

A lot of times our personal stories can muddle what is a rather straightforward piece of guidance. If we can take a step back from making a conclusion about our worth and understand, so that we understand that we are simply being asked to reconsider something or make a tweak to how we are talking or creating our new idea, we won't feel stuck nearly as much.

 

As we continue in this series of Spiritual Discernment for the Soulful Biz, we'll take a deeper look at how to further step into role of biz priestess and make powerful choices for the temples of service we are building.

A guide for quick intuitive business insight: Part 1 of spiritual discernment for the soulful biz series

Intuitive guidance doesn't lead to an "end point", instead it guides us toward further growth, which in turn leads us to further growth. So when it comes to asking the right questions of our guidance, we have to release our wishes for a homerun program or launch and ask the deeper questions.

Questions like

Is this right for my sacred business temple?

Will this touch my soulmates?

What energy does this carry?

Can make or break your business!

NO, Stop, Don't go there: This is not a difficult sign to interpret. It's pretty friggin instinctual. It's dread, anger, feeling appalled, utter rejection.  It's strong enough to stop you in your tracks all on it's own, with no further interpretation needed. If you aren't feeling "hell, no. Don't trust this." or "Don't let that happen." then it's a yield sign, not a stop a sign.

An interesting thing is that a stop sign isn't always a stop sign forever.  Sometimes we have to work out and understand why we are having those strong emotions and reactions before we can move on again. Sometimes we will grow into our understanding of our feelings, so that we can glean something useful from the situation, despite our initial reaction to it.

Go, go, go:

This is a clear signal that you probably recognize already because it's so strong. But it can also be subtle. Really any good feeling is a "go" signal. Beyond that, all good feelings are an indication for growth and signs of the path where you're going move toward your destiny. Those good feelings reflect that truest things about you.

The one thing we have to remember is that intuitive insight won't talk about success in terms of sales and money and such. Intuitive insight comes from soul level being, it's going to talk about success in terms of health, wholeness, and joy. Those two categories don't have to be mutually exclusive, and often successful people tend to say they found their wealth success in the things that brought them soul fulfillment and joy. What most LOA and manifestation teachers tend to skip over, is that fact that business still needs to be worked from a business perspective, even if it brings you joy. You still need to be concerned about growing your following and engaging them, even if you're having fun expressing yourself in your social media.

If you are managing to do both, lead growth AND self-expression through marketing, you ROCK. That's how co-creation is supposed to work. But if either is lacking, something has to be tweaked if you want wealth success and soul success. There has be a balance between soul truth AND business technique in order to support yourself on your soul mission. Soulfulness alone isn't going to cut it. You have refine and polish your intuitive guidance, nurture those seeds of inspiration, into something viable, useful, and lovely.

Yield or Hmm, maybe:

This is an interesting signal because it can feel kind of good, but but there no flow behind it, no furthering of the potential. It can feel like mild confusion too, as if you can't quite grasp what is supposed to come next, as if it doesn't make sense just yet or the images are jumbled. It can feel good or at least neutral, like wishful thinking.

While I won't say this is true of all maybe signals, I do often find that while we might feel called to explore the next steps of a maybe signal, that it often leads us to a place we've been before and haven't had a breakthrough at. This doesn't mean we won't have a breakthrough this time, but it does mean we need to get real curious about what it's going to take to make the breakthrough happen. For instance, you have trouble selling a program and decided to write a book instead. While you may need to write the book, the book still needs to be sold. And maybe that is where your plan with the program fell down, in the selling of it. So write the book, but get real curious about what blocks and fears you have around really selling your work. Get curious about what you glean about selling from this perspective, because selling books is different than selling programs.

It might also serve you take a bird's eye perspective of all those thing you felt "maybe" about. Did any of them have a commonality around them, like they required you to hone your selling? or those maybe could have used a better understanding of your numbers or reasonable expectation of a given launch? Those "maybe" projects seem to point out where we need the most work on ourselves, our growth, and our biz priestess skills.

The last thing I want to remind everyone about is that all guidance is only ever "in the moment". Even if we get a clear vision about where things can go, the only place we can begin to tend those seeds is in the present moment. Each breath, thought, and choice will either grow those seeds or take us in another direction. The specifics of our visions can't be held on to as if they are the only things can or should happen for us. Those visions are guidance and sign posts in and of themselves, not the destination.  It's as if soul is giving as an archetypal symbol of the path we have put ourselves on. At every moment we have the choice to choose anew, to shift up the flavor of the archetype, to change our approach, or to choose a different archetype all together. But in end, it's still just a symbol. It's not the business you have in this moment.

Intuitive insight guide for the soulful business

Knowing whether a project has a stop, yield, or green light can help us set deadlines, plan, and developing our businesses and projects in a more efficient way. It also keeps out of the wish-sandwich business, where we wish our biz was a successful or profitable as we see it can be.

It keeps us asking: "How can we act on this guidance right now? Who will it serve the best today?"

As we continue in this series of Spiritual Discernment for the Soulful Biz, we'll take a deeper look at how to further step into role of biz priestess and make powerful choices for the temples of service we are building.

A story of Grouse Medicine

Grouse medicine

On behalf of October, the thinning veil, Halloween and Samhain, I felt guided to share some stories from personal experience!

First up is a story about opening to spiritual gifts. Pull out a cozy blanket, get a cup of hot chocolate, and let’s pretend we’re sharing stories by the campfire!

 

This month is all about being in action with flow and guidance.

Remember to share your own stories!! You never know who will begin to open to their own gifts, or begin to heal, simply from hearing your experiences!!

 

Read the full-length story below!!


 

It is a cop out to say I was born like this. We are all born like this. Few people do not have stories of knowing who a caller was before the phone began to ring, warning dreams of death or accidents of loved ones, or some type of experience with ghosts, angels, or simply something unknown. Not many of us have the chance to realize the fullness or depth of having gifts though. For some, the idea of having gifts will never even cross their conscious mind. I didn’t truly realize this about myself until I was twenty one.

My realization started with a deck of animal totem cards. I had gotten then on a whim. They felt good to my hands and at that time I was very interested in Shamanism. Every few days I would chose a new card and place it in my student id case. This way I could carry my medicine lesson with me and get to know the cards more intimately. I had my favorites, of course. Eagle was strong and sharp eyed. Cougar was crafty and fierce. Owl and crow were messengers.

About halfway through the school year I got stuck with Grouse. I didn’t really like Grouse. I didn’t understand why I needed to hold on to Grouse’s medicine for such a long period of time. I thought I was already following the life lessons of “Find your rhythm, honor the synchronicity, spiral into your potential.” I was in collage after all, studying what I always wanted to study, and taking life as it was coming. I had even been studying and practicing shamanism. It is almost a needless pun to point out, that I was grousing about Grouse’s medicine. In an attempt to get other messages, I would draw until I got something other than Grouse. This continued until I really got stuck with Grouse as the whole deck, but Grouse, vanished from my night stand.

Months passed and a few times I had become so irked at Grouse that I tore through my room looking for the deck. Each time, the deck remained as lost as it was before. The memory of it would stick in my mind, like a word on the tip of your tongue, waiting just beyond reach to be remembered. Even though I huffed and groused that my deck had been lost, there little I could do about replacing it on my collage budget. Grouse stayed tucked into my id case.

When the end of the school year came, I cleaned from my room from top to bottom. I found my deck of animal totem cards on the bottom of my night stand. This was a place I had cleaned more than several times since I had lost the deck. But the deck sat there, as if mocking me, between a few books at the bottom of my nightstand. I had been through those books and even taken them out of the shelf. I groused even more internally through out the day as I finished cleaning and packing for the year.

I treated myself that evening by going down to my friend’s apartment for some tea and some down time. It was a bit of a ritual for us. You may take that as literally as you like, because for me, life is lived by intention and not necessarily bells and whistles. We lit the candles, had a light dinner, and waited for the brew. She and I crashed on the futon couch while we waited and eventually took in our tea. It was an odd night and my friend had other visitors, of which only she could see. After several trips out West and to a reservation in New Mexico, my friend had managed to acquire the friendship of some deceased Native Elders. The Elders had their stereotypical sense of humor and rarely were things actually calm when they felt they had something to share. Nothing about that was odd to me. I had grown up my friend, so I was used to how she worked and what she could do. But that night her friends were usually particularly antagonistic in their teasing.

That night there was a message for me. I never took their messages with grace, they usually brought out the chip on my shoulder. I groused internally as my friend began to laugh while imparting the message. Because she was laughing and her invisible friends were laughing the message didn’t come through in full, but she repeated what she could make out. The message was something about the Grouse card.

I felt completely deflated. Not only had the deck been mocking me and my efforts to understand, now the invisible Native Americans were mocking my grousing. I sat slumped on the couch, annoyed, and explained to my friend about the grouse card I have been carrying around with me for months. I hadn’t told her the whole story of how I lost the deck and had gotten stuck with one card. My friend laughed even harder. She laughed not simply at me, but also at the commentary, that only she could hear. After they all had their laugh at me, it was time to say good night. I still had to make the trip home the next day.

I stood by my friend’s door, collecting my backpack and sweatshirt, when I heard something. Today I can’t tell you what it was, it had been an inconsequential snarfy comment. But I heard it. My friend once again cracked up laughing. The world seemed to stop in that moment, and stood up and looked at her. I asked her pointedly if they had said what I thought they had said. She agreed that was more or less what she heard. But I had heard it. I had heard their words in way that was not foreign to me. I had a similar internal voice most of my life….or at least I thought it was internal to me….

That moment brought my world to threshold I had never before considered. I now had to consider the fact that that voice that reared it’s head every so often was not simply me making stuff up when I got bored. I had to consider that those times when I thought I was zoning out, talking internally with, what I thought was a completely made up character, was not quite as made up as I had thought. This was something so internal to me, I never thought to tell anyone about. I had thought that this was not an uncommon thing, that it was like day dreaming. This process was so innate to me, that I never questioned how or why it was there.

While I am pointing out here how one instant began a realization, an awakening, process for me, the full course of learning what was real took time. It took some experimentation. To my mind, the largest shock was not really that I had been doing this listening all my life. It was that I had never really been alone. I had grown up being adopted, an only child, in between the ages of my cousins, few friends. I had grown up alone and grown up to like my alone times. The shock of the idea that perhaps I was never really ever alone, so to speak, changed my perspective in ways that are very hard to describe. One of the first things I felt I had to figure out was where I ended and other ways of being began. What was my authentic voice? What was fed to me without me realizing?

I don’t know what took me so long to see things as they are. I don’t know what really got me all blocked up from catching the hint that I was more sensitive than I knew. Today, while sometimes I forget, sometimes I get caught in the melodrama of daily life, there comes a point where I get a slap to the back of the head and askance of why I didn’t ask for help sooner. The world comes back into focus, and the patterns and cycles of things give the sight and knowledge I need to tread the deep waters of life and the strength to live my life on my own terms. My path is mine alone, given to me long ago. Laid forth by ancestors and friends. My path, my wheel of life and medicine, is the only thing that can break me, the only thing that can heal me. It is the only thing that is real. This is the medicine lesson of the honorable brother, sometimes trickster, Grouse. Find your rhythm, honor the synchronicity, spiral into your potential.

Is your relaxation time sacred? –Practices that matter series

Relaxation is sacred

It surprised me that relation came up, as I plotted and planned out this month’s series “Practices that matter”. It hadn’t been my first choice. I thought perhaps I would talk more about centering, grounding, soul embodiment, and so forth. Things you’ve heard me talk about before. But as I lived out my practices, I found that relaxation is what I really needed, and therefore probably needed to talk about. The guidance you get for yourself, usually is the guidance that will help others too, right?! 😉

Stress is part of our survival mechanism. I’m sure we’ve all read enough articles to know that stress is not a place that long-term stress is not good for the vessel. The ironic part is that our brain can’t actually tell the difference between high stress and high excitement or joy. Both states trigger similar reactions in our body. This means that we, our thinking, is the only thing interpreting whether a situation is good or bad. While both happiness and stress can trigger similar reactions, only stress has long-lasting negative effects on our natural spiritual connection. During stress, we are so busy trying to protect ourselves that our attention focuses almost solely on the physical. In other words, our natural balance between physical and soul automatically shifts toward the physical, making it harder to hear or understand guidance. Being so focused on just that one state of being that creates a tunnel vision effect in our thinking and perception. This state of mind is hard to break if we don’t know the difference between fear-based thinking and intuition. It can make our thinking AND our guidance muddled.

when you block your loving perspective with fear, you cut off your connection to miracles. This is why you need to learn to relax in the face of stress and chaos

 

Einstein said that we cannot solve our problems with the same thinking that created them. When we stay in the stress state, we are tunnel visioned into the thinking that created the block. It is only when we can tune back into Soul and Divine self that we begin to more clearly access intuition and wider perspective. I know that it’s going sound a little impossible to relax when you feel worried or stressed. But relaxing is the exact key we need to unlock ourselves from the tunnel vision of fear effect AND to open to intuition.

I’m not talking about rushing off to an extra yoga class, locking the door so you can have me-time, or cramming in a ten-minute coffee break. Those activities end up feeling stressful in the end! We’ve been accustomed to thinking of relaxation as an activity, something else to schedule out in our planners. But relaxation is a sacred act, a simple shift in the way we are perceiving the events around us. Taking a few minutes to simply stop thinking or “go blank” is just the thing needed to reset your day and vibe. At least a few times a week, I need to take my relaxation a little more seriously. Whether it’s a bath, a walk, or just a quiet night to myself, getting away from the tunnel vision mindset stress brings on changes my view on myself and what I’m doing. The practice is sacred because, in that space which relaxation created, Soul inevitably fills.

Because nature abhors a vacuum, conscious relaxation leaves more space for Soul to fill.

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Let’s get the convo started!! What are your favorite ways to open yourself back to the Divine through relaxation? Leave your comment!

7 ways to know if your spiritual practice needs an upgrade

7 ways to know if your spiritual practice needs an upgrade

 

For years my soul sister and I used to banter about what we called the “fall wall”. We had noticed that every fall there seemed to be some kind of life dilemma or challenge that came up..specifically in the fall. Thinking about this last fall and the one coming up, I realized that we had been experiencing the eclipse door that Elizabeth Peru teaches about. This particular eclipse is having us focus on our personal habits and ideas about what we are capable of.

For many sensitivities and Intuitives getting into a personal spiritual practice can be the best thing to help stabilize gifts and begin to gain momentum. So this month I really want to help you, my loves, to evaluate and maybe begin some daily practices to help make the transition into a more powerful and centered life!

Not all daily spiritual practice are equal, nor are they all meant to be a sole focus for long periods of time!

Here 4 things to consider if your spiritual practice might have you feeling a little flat or ungrounded. You might need to change up your daily practices if:

  1. Your practice is not meeting your emotional needs: Thoughts and emotions are, by their very nature, fluid and changeable. We are never coming to our day from the same place we had in the past. A good spiritual practice will be adaptable to meet us from the place we came to Spirit. But if you cannot seem to get to the open and open-hearted space we should be aiming for, then it’s probably time to try something new.
  2. Your practice makes you feel like or believe that you need to be only certain way: A spiritual practice should be adaptable to where you are and what you need. If you have a goal that takes external action (like say building a business), then your practice might need to revolve around boning up on taking lots of small inspired action, it would be like building up your manifestation muscles and habits. If your goal is more of an inward journey, your practices might more revolve around energy cleansings and heart work. The point is that not every practice will be suitable to all the goals you might want to encompass in life. While generally we should aiming for an open-hearted feeling, how we get there and what we need to do to get there, even the time it takes to release something, makes each experience new and personalized to where you are actually coming from that day.
  3. Having a hard time making choices, following guidance, or choosing change: Soul always know what you need to choose, it’s the personal mind in the body gets confused. If you are experiencing hesitation, doubt, or confusion it could very well be that the practice you are doing isn’t giving the grounding you need to bring Soul Wisdom through and into inspired action.
  4. It feels cumbersome and like a lot of work: Spiritual work does not have to be hard work. Nor does it have to be time consuming. Simpler is often better and more effective. Do only that which you need to make the shift you need at that time. Otherwise you run risk of having your practices become more like trappings than tools of substance. There are certain things that everyday you might need, like giving yourself an energy boost or grounding into soul self, but don’t ever think that you need to reach the same emotional state every time, nor spend hours trying make yourself feel only one way.

 

Sometimes it’s not the practice that’s keeping us in rut. Sometimes it’s our own willingness to work with the Earthly guidance we get (aka: our feelings)!

3 ways to tell if you need to sink deeper into your spiritual practices or take it a new level of commitment:

  1. Not satisfying, procrastination, or feeling resistance.
  2. You have guidance and inspiration, but can’t seem to focus or get it out.
  3. You are denying, burying, or avoiding your feelings.

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If you find you or your practices need a bit of a boost, not to worry! We all go through it!

Finding you need to change things up to meet your current needs is not something you need heap self-judgment on yourself over!

Follow your heart, Loves! Allow it to guide you to the practices your Divine self really needs! And keep an eye out for this month’s blog post, as I will be talking more about the practices that are my go-to activities for staying in center!

What is Grounding?

What is grounding

We’ll be talking all about the practice of Grounding this month. You’re in for a treat because the guidance I received about grounding is not only timely to 2016 end of year but it’s such a twist, so different from what you would expect that it will leave you wondering what you thought you knew before. I’m not here to totally redefine everything you thought you knew about the basics. But I think these deeper dives into how the basics actually work are inspired by all the shifts and waves of awakenings that are happening.

It’s not the practices are changing, but we are called to understand our very nature and intuitive instincts on a much more soul deep level. Soon enough I don’t think it’s going to be enough to get by on what we used to know, the world is changing so fast and so fundamentally with each awakening that we all need to anchor in these new energies as soon as we can. And that my brilliant bright lights, is the very nature of grounding.

Traditional view of grounding: An exercise, usually a form of meditation, that helps one move excess spiritual energy from the body to the Earth to promote a sense of calmness and serenity. Sometimes this is done through other activities like taking a walk, sex, or even eating. 

New Idea around Grounding: Taking in Divine Energies and making them manifest here in the Earth plane.

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Before I sat down and began downloading the guidance around grounding for this month, I still wrestled with the idea of grounding being, essentially, plugging one’s self into Earth and letting energy flow back up and out. Yes, on a very basic level that is what seemed to be happening. Yet my big question was what energy are we actually get rid of and why is there to begin with?

So I poked around in some groups online to see what the consensus was. It seemed like most people’s idea of grounding revolved around ridding ones self of negativity and anxiety and also recharging the system.  

But isn’t that basically cleansing? In most metaphysical books, grounding, centering, and cleansing three entirely separate practices?! Most times in books, authors tell you to ground after doing energy  work, ritual, and so forth because you might have taken in too much energy during your practice. There is this underlying belief here that “too much” energy can make us feel flighty, anxious, and restless. This says nothing about grounding be a cleansing practice. This line of thinking was getting me questions than answers. And what does “too much energy” actually mean?

 

Is grounding only about ridding ourselves of negativity, depression, anxiety, or excess energies?

I don’t think so. 

What is this “too much energy” we all experience that we need these practices for? If we can experience this “too much energy” state after ritual, energy work, or even while we’re in the creative flow, isn’t what we’re talking about Divine energy?

And Divine energy isn’t just a force, like electricity. It’s an intelligent, conscious wave. It’s love and wisdom, and all good things rolled into one…and we can’t have too much of that??? We can certainly have more than we are used to from the baseline of a given day. But can we really have too much Love?? For a person who comes from an energy medicine background, to me, this is like asking can a fish take in too much water! Turns out a fish can’t drown in regular water. I can only drown in water that doesn’t have enough oxygen in it, so when something is off about the H2O mix. Otherwise a fish is good to whatever is going on in the ocean around it, just as we normally do in the oceans of energy we live in.

There is also an underlying belief behind the idea of traditional grounding, which implies that spiritual people should not experience highs or lows. That highs and lows are s not natural in a sense and can even be harmful. This isn’t truth though, this is perfectionism at work. It’s ego thinking, not Divine wisdom. We can’t consistently live from a high or low state, we end up burning out or bottoming out. But certainly our capacity to feel and hold high and low vibes state would ebb and flow, just like everything else in the Universe, right?

 

Are you saying I shouldn’t try to get rid of negativity or feeling bad?

Yes and no. I’m of the the mind that all feelings are sacred messages. Even anxiety and depression. They are naturally occurring things that happen to being of light who have bodies on this plane. These experiences are part of collective, part of our Oneness. I don’t think one should hold onto or give special significance to a random experience of depression or anxiety, sometimes it’s a fleeting thing. It’s when we have cyclical patterns of these feelings, that makes ego stand up and ask the big question “what’s wrong with us?”

That’s ego’s job. It asks the questions that will keep us alive. But all it really is, is an alarm system alerting us there could be a potential threat…could be. We need that alarm system, even if it’s a little overzealous at times. So why are we trying to give it away? Shouldn’t be learning more how to turn the alarm system back to maintenance mode when we realize we aren’t actually dying this very second? You don’t chuck your smoke detector because it goes off after you’ve burned dinner. You simply silence the alarm for the time being. 

But we think all those feels MEAN something really important, and so we hold on them. We poke at them, analyze them to death. But we never seem to get around to simply turning the ringer off or adjusting the alarm sensitivity. I think we do what we do because we don’t like how depression and anxiety feel, and that we’re just trying to stabilize, so I’m certainly not picking on anyone. But what would happen if we learned more about how to work that alarm system?

 

So why was grounding so important and what is it exactly??

Most times when we are using a recorded meditation all these practices we’re talking about are all combined into one easy to use tool, the recording itself.  We’re flowing from one practice to the other without really thinking about it. Most modern meditations will use relaxation and opening to the light to center and clear. Centering and Cleansing are what really help us through negativity and anxiety. When we come to center, hear and feel soul and it’s guidance, be in that love state, then fear-base thinking evaporates. And once we have clarity, from centering, about what feelings and energies are actually our own, we can effectively do our cord cuttings and white light love purges of things we might have picked up and held on to but weren’t authentic to us.

Through centering and cleansing we get tapping into on the wisdom and love of Guidance, Soul, Guides, Higher self, Truth the Universe, Divinity…however you think of it.

And guidance can’t live only within our brains and energy fields forever.

Guidance’s ultimate destiny is to be shared. If we don’t embrace it, it moves on to someone who is ready to act and move with it or we are stuck in a repeating pattern till we embrace it.

And in order to be shared, in needs to come through our system and enter the Earth plane…it needs to be grounded. WE don’t need to be grounded Earth, we are of Earth, already within it’s energies. The Divine Guidance needs to be rooted and anchored into this physical world. It needs to be made manifest, to be turned into something “real”. This isn’t always done through meditation, sometimes the only real way to ground that energy is to take inspired action.

grounding through inspired action

 

To bring this back down the practical, my loves…

What it it that is dying to come out of when we get into center?

What ideas and inspiration keep coming back to you when you center?

What will you ground into the Earth plane i order to make a little Heaven on Earth?

 

Declare it in the comments below and so it will be, dearest souls!!

 

Don’t forget this article is just part of a series on Grounding! You can find the rest of the series, “How does grounding work?” here and “Do you need improve your grounding practice?”, here.

Resistance and Intuition: The dance of growth

dance of resistance and guidance

This post about resistance is part of a series about the 4 most common blocks to the staying in the Intuitive State, you can catch up on the whole series here.

In retrospect, I can see so clearly how I created resistance over just about everything that now make me who I am today. From mindset shifts, to lessons about abilities work, to my own worth. I used to say….

That can’t be right!

How could that be?

Maybe in an ideal world.

But I don’t know how to do that?

I’m not sure how that would really help.

That sounds so hard/expensive/drawn out.

I can’t do that.

But that’s not who I am….

But I don’t wanna…..

 

I resisted because what was being presented to me, or rather my idea of that shift, scared me on some level. Perhaps it made me feel like I was lacking in something that made the shift seem impossible. Maybe I feared the backlash of saying something or choosing to approach the situation a certain way. Over the course of my own path there have been things I’ve known I should be doing, confronting, making my stand on, which I was happy to hold far far away from my daily life. I had hope I could get by without having to go there. It seemed like tango between feeling guided and resisting guidance. One moment both sides of me were all over each other, then next guidance was trying to reel my resistance back into the dance.

Sometimes it seems like there is some grand scheme to make us each confront our resisted truths. But then I learned to sit with my resistance and fear. I learned not to let it run away with me, but to sit and see what it is I am actually feeling fear or lack over. Because of this practice, I no longer believe that the Universe or God are some cold authorities out to test us at every step. The reason it seems like the Universe is out to teach us a lesson  is only because we act out of fear, we psyche ourselves out, and allow ego to talk trash to us to the point where simply aren’t even willing to look at what Soul might have been implying. We are constantly being presented Truths and ways to grow, some trigger our emotions and fear more deeply than others. Sometimes change comes naturally, even welcomed. The only difference from a “hard” lesson and an easy one is our perception of what has to change. Of course, there are somethings that just suck. But that doesn’t mean that we can’t begin to see why it’s needed. We might even see how it was the perfect thing for us, even if it made us a little uncomfortable.

Getting to the point where we can even begin to unravel the stories ego came up with can be tricky. Where I used to see this as never-ending of dance of acceptance and rejection of the present moment, I now see it as a birthing process.  When we are finally in alignment and really know, deep down inside, that we must change, we allow pieces of our intrinsic, already existing, potential self, come into our reality bubble.  We are birthing a more integrated version of ourselves, one has stripped away another layer of shadow. Shadow is the boxes we create when we believe ourselves to be shameful, unworthy, broken. In other words, not already fully part of the light. But let’s just face facts, Ego abhors change. Unless we see from the get go that the change we are considering doesn’t have a downside, we’re going to have to deal with Ego trying to butt it’s head into our soul business.

resistance as labor pains

Maybe we stop dancing because of resistance.

In seeing this process as labor pains, we see that our resistance is a very natural pain, a common experience we share, along a larger journey. A lot of times, Ego will go into contractions over the fact that we are moving out of our comfort zone. Sometimes those are contractions are so intense all we can to do is hold on and breathe our way through it. But once we can recognize that the world isn’t falling to pieces or that something is trying to stop you, all that just happened was a birthing pain, you can more easily reorient yourself along the path.

And as a pregnant mother needs extra care and support, so will you, as you allow more of you soul-self into this world! But once begun and committed to, there really is not way to stop the birthing process. Labor pains are the not reason to stop changing, growing. They are the signal the end of this particular journey is coming to some kind of conclusion. Those bouts of resistance are the sign we were looking to tell us to be diligent so we can finish what we started.

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The secret relationship between emotional pain and intuition

The secret relationship between pain and intuition

This article, about the relationship between pain and intuition, is part of a series about the main 4 block to intuition and also the Emotional Mastery Series. I took two weeks off during the writing of this series (1st article and 2nd article of the Intuition block series), as I had gone through my own bout of pain, struggle, and anxiety. I bless that period of time now, as it really brought home the point of this series in such a profound way that I feel like a clear, laser-focused, on the deepest truth of this life experience.

Let me start off by saying that I am only speaking of emotional pain. I am not speaking of physical pain from injury, disease, or disorder, I am not doctor in any way, and can only speak from my experiences and insights received as an intuitive. That all being said, what I learned during my break was that pain is the experience we have, and we all share it, that something has been taken away from us or the fear that we will somehow lose something. It is the knee jerk survival mechanism that warns us that way in some way be diminished by an encounter, argument, or situation, perhaps even diminished to the point of injury or death.

While emotional pain is a natural reaction, it is not natural for us to hold on that pain. That holding on to pain puts stress on the body that can ultimately weaken and damage the body. The stress of carrying our pain certainly will begin to effect our daily lives, sleep and eating patterns, and we will continue to decline and feel worse.

Pain, or fear of emotional pain, is the root cause of our emotions and behaviors. Yet it is not the pain, in and of itself, that causes the most disruption and damage in our lives. The point of pain is to lead us back to oneness. Like it’s sibling fear, pain shows us where we need love and more healing. It is ego’s response to pain that is the most disruptive to our lives and healing.

Ego is a natural structure, or maybe function, in our minds and consciousness. It allows us to safely experience and learn about the world around us. When we experience things, even pain, ego seeks to explain the reason we feel it and helps us to figure out if something is harmful or helpful. Being that ego only really deals with physical world issues, it only is half the equation, as we are not only physical beings. So as long we resist coming into our natural intuitive state, embracing and coming into alignment with our multi-dimensional soul, we are only getting about half the story about any experience we have, whether it pain, fear, happiness, or joy. While feelings states like happiness and joy are closer to the vibration and state of intuitive soul connection, even they aren’t fully an expression of soul centeredness. We can feel joy and happiness for all the wrong reasons.

force shame out of hiding, giving our pain the light

The longer we stay entrenched in the day to day living beyond this physical plane, the easier it becomes to accept pain and fear as our very real, very deeply reality. The deeper and more frequently we experience this reality the crazier ego becomes in attempting to figure out the pain and solve it. Of course, when firmly entrenched in the physical world view, we all see how it can make sense. Yet ego’s explanations will never fully account or be able to fully heal our pain because it is just one part of us. And because ego is in overdrive trying to resolve our pain, ego also fails to point out that we aren’t the only one’s in pain. The experience of ego and pain, left unchecked by soul and the intuition state, makes it hard to see that our pain isn’t as personal to us as we would believe.

If fact, in those moments of unchecked fear and pain, we seem to all believe that our pain is so real and painful that no one else could possible understand or have experienced this level of darkness and hurt. We fall under the illusion that we are so deeply flawed and lacking we cannot or should not be part of the world around us, or that there are parts of us that should never see the light of day again…or the light of Divine Love. We create our shadow sides, because we have believed the stories ego has fed us, that our pain makes us ugly and unacceptable…some how different.

But the opposite is more true. We are one in our experience of pain. It is through the realization of Oneness that we experience the healing of our pain. Brene Brown’s work on vulnerability beautifully explains that when we can embrace our pain and begin to become vulnerable, to share our pain experience, that we become healed. From an energy level, it makes complete sense, that being vulnerable and sharing would lead us to our healing and Oneness. When we believe ego, it tells us we are alone, flawed, broken, should not show our pain, we close ourselves off. We try to close off the energy of that wound, sometimes we create divisions within ourselves to keep that wound hidden in shadow. But when we share things, our energy opens back up again and the potential for light and love to reach our deep inner pain is possible again.

Our deeply held wounds and emotional pain, are those places within ourselves that we (or ego) has deemed fit to never see the light, when it is the light (our soul, intuition state, the open flow between us and the world around us) that is the cure to our pain. By denying our soul selves and Divine Love, we only keep ourselves in pain.

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