13 Signs of being Centered

13 signs of being centered

In my  line of work I talk about lot about “the basics” of empathic and intuitive mastery, like grounding, getting centered, and how to thrive without shields. It’s mostly because the deeper I go into these foundations, the more realize that they haven’t bee explained or talked about nearly enough to for us to really “get it”. So many people say the same things over and over about these practices without getting down to what is actually working or how they work it. The more awakened and souled I become, the more these foundational skills just keep giving. I started this series on centering at the beginning of the month to really explore what my soul knows and feels about this one practice. If you are starting with post, you can look at the others here and here!

Here’s some of the ideas we’ve already covered, so everyone can be on the same page!

  • Centering is not quieting your mind, letting the light, grounding into Earth, or collecting your thoughts or energy.
  • Centering is allowing soul back into the physical, creating a safe space and environment in the the physical for Soul to come home to.
  • Nothing is required beyond creating the time and space to make internal peace and quiet that makes body irresistible to soul.
  • The big reason we are uncentered usually revolves around not feeling safe enough, stable enough, worthy enough to accept our own Divinity. We have created separation between soul and physical reality…at least in our minds.

 

The practice of centering is coming back to the recognition that we are meant to carry the power and wisdom of soul and source connection into our physical reality. We are meant to have that power, sacredness, insight, and level of perception. That power only exists in the moment, and we can tap into it more fully when we are clear. So learning to hear wisdom vs. ego in the moment is a huge part of the process.  That difference was the topic of last week’s blog article, which you can find here! The whole idea  can be summed up like this:

If some thoughts and feelings make you feel bad, afraid, ashamed, worried, then it’s NOT Divine Wisdom and Love.

To be centered is to be open and in moment with Divine Love.

To be centered is to be open and in moment with Divine Love. Click To Tweet

When I first centered fully with Soul, mind, and body in alignment, true, deep alignment, I instantly saw what I  had been doing to myself. I saw how I held myself back, going in silly circles of thought, and that thought had nothing to do with the outside world. It was all internal. And I also saw how wisdom had been guiding me my entire life. I saw the pattern clearly, of how at each little junction point I heard clearly what the answer was. I understood that all those times I chose to feed fear instead of listening deeper I had only been holding myself back. And I saw in all that I was loved and cherished, not because I finally got it right, but because I kept trying, seeking, asking for wisdom. In the past, it had only been my awareness and expectation of what guidance was that kept me from fully recognizing it.

What we usually associate with centering are actually the steps we can take in order to get centered. Quieting the mind does help in the process of inviting soul in because soul likes peace. When we are peaceful within ourselves we can align more quickly. Gathering our thoughts or energy can help for the same reasons, as most of thought is not truly ours. Learning to practice gathering true self, what YOU actually think and feel, can also help toward centering. Meditating can help do those things we just talked about, and so also can be be a good gateway to getting centered. But none of these things in and of themselves are actually centering.

Let’s get back to the practical though, being centered feels like:

  1. I feel powerfully aligned with the tasks I need to do to fulfill my life purpose.
  2. Heart feel open, full of love, even when thinking of a challenge.
  3. I feel empowered and ready, yet fully relaxed, breathing calmly from my belly.
  4. Able to hold or work with more energy than “normal”.
  5. The perfect solution seems possible.
  6. Able to provide self-love and assurance to shift from negative, ego-thinking and limitations.
  7. Easier to consider pushing my boundaries of my comfort zone.
  8. Open sense, no spiraling or cyclical thought, sense of expansion.
  9. Seeing, knowing, sensing the perfectness of the moment or even next step.
  10. Easily able to see the difference between ego thinking and true wisdom.
  11. Able to give self permission to “feel good” even if tired, sore, ill, feeling a little down, dealing with a bout of negativity.
  12. My core has been activated and my actions and love clearly create ripples out into time/space
  13. Sensing my own energy and aura breathing and moving around me.

 

The 13 signs of being centered

Centering isn’t about make one shift a day or every so often.  Nor is it about hitting each of the 13 points that I experience, all the time or building up to that over time. Centering is a practice of continually coming back to our truest self over and over with each breath and moment. It is the practice that give us the time and space to release all that holds us back from being co-creators, strong and Divine in our own light.  Part of the mastery of this process should be about naming and recognizing how you know you are actually centered in Divine Source and Soul level being.

To help get you started, here are some actions that can help you consistently create that time and space:

  • Making time to be creative, allowing our flows to guide mind and body to create something new and beyond us.
  • Ritual work, so that soul, mind, and body can work in alignment.
  • Dreaming and Daydreaming, allowing soul and wisdom play in potentials.
  • Meditation to quiet the mind and create the peace that Soul adores and wants to fill.
  • Sex or orgasims to fill ourselves with higher vibes and love to attract soul in deeper
  • Actively giving self love to fill ourselves with higher vibes and love to attract soul in deeper
  • Gardening or doing the dishes because these can be meditations to quiet the mind too.
  • Spiritual or self work to see ego’s thinking more clearly
  • Taking a bath or shower because that can be a good time to get really present and release thought.

But the number one thing you need in order to really “get” centered and centering is the willingness to come into the space where you can have the unconditional love that you need, that you have always craved.  That willingness is the key, no matter what physical actions you might be doing.

In the comments below, I hope you will take the chance to explore what might be keeping you from intentionally centering into the state of unconditional love!!

 

How to Recognize when you’re uncentered

How to recognize you are uncentered

 

Last week, when I began this series on centering, we took a brief look at what centering is. I posted a list “symptoms”to help you identify when you aren’t centered, hoping to give you a broad stroke idea of what centering isn’t. But centering is tricky. There are times when we”think” we can be fairly on target, but aren’t or have missed the central point. Additionally, there are times when we are centered in how we feel, like say when we believe we are angry for all the right reasons, yet the solution seems elusive or is something we don’t think we can accepts. This week I would like to take a little bit of a deeper dive into learning to become conscious of when we lose our center.

 

To date, the biggest centering lesson I have learned was to distinguish between my small physical world mind (ego) and my higher mind (Soul and Source). This first hand knowledge is what guides me back to center over and over again. Before my latest big shift in awakening, I thought I correctly perceived that all the thoughts that went though my mind were my own and were, at least, part of who I was. My thoughts were the result of my experiences and were hard won over life’s challenges and growth spurts. I believed that the things spoken in anger had more truth to them than things said in love. And in that, I even believed myself to be centered. Possessing at a fairly steady emotional keel. I worked to keep that.

As I began to untangle what was higher mind and what wasn’t, my beliefs radically changed. In just a post, such as this, it’s hard to say what will drive this point home for you, gorgeous Soul.  For it me took first fully (at least it felt that way at the time) coming to center to begin understanding the HUGE difference. Today I sit back and wonder how I could have ever believed that the Divine would want to punish me, shame me, kick me when I’m down, as I had done to myself when I thought every thought I had was some sort of Truth. The first time I understood that my guide, the angels, the Divine could not be harsher judges of myself, than myself, I wept for all the pain I had heaped upon my being. My own ideas (ego) of how broken I was kept me from Oneness with Divine and Creation.

 

symptoms of being uncentered

 

All those little thoughts that occurred were ego’s way of wrapping me so tightly in a cocoon of “safety” that couldn’t let the truly good stuff in, the unconditional love. In that cocoon, though, I never felt safe. No matter how many precautions I took, how well I planned to overcome my worry or anxiety. Fear begets fear, it doesn’t solve fear. No matter how well we think we are doing, if we are coming from a place of fear or avoidance of pain, we are not in center with our Divine Soul.

Our center, the seat of Soul, is a place of absolute love. Judgment does not exists there.

Our center, the seat of Soul, is a place of absolute love. Judgment does not exists there. Click To Tweet

Thoughts, the daily emotions, worries, anxieties, through time and/or circumstance pass or recede. It’s hard to hitch your wagon, plan your life, or make good choices from such a random place. Soul is constant, ever-present, and always observing things behind the scenes of the thoughts and emotions that run through us. Coming to center is learning to identify “self” as that ever-present observer. The whisper or nudge behind that daily drama. That is your truest self, and the true center of your being.

The voice of Soul will never call you fat, a loser, ugly, worthless, a screw up, broken…whatever nasty ass thing ego can come up with. The voice of Soul will show you how to give yourself the love that you need, so that you can more fully come to center.

 

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Our center, the seat of Soul, is a place of absolute love. Judgment does not exists there.

 

What, my dearest Souls, are you willing to stop believing about yourself, so that you can come more fully to center??? Let me know in the comments!

What is Centering?

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Drum roll please…this month is all about centering.

I like doing these blog series because it allows me to take a deep dive into a subject. In that deep dive I can provide more than just simple instruction that may or may not make sense. For me what is usually most important is not what goes on the surface. It is the inner state that needs to be worked on and with for the surface to reflection to become more clear or more understandable. I also love taking deep dives into the foundational practices behind living a spiritual life. Without a deeper understand of what is going on behind the scenes we run into the problem of simply going through the motions.

That being said, centering is a heck of a lot more than simply gathering your thoughts or coming to a zen point of releasing thought. It’s even more than gathering your energy around you. I haven’t met a Llewellyn book yet that adequately covers the practice of centering. It’s not simply a meditation or even mental concept to ruminate about. It is an active practice. It is also a practice that one practices many times though out the day. Centering is often talked about in terms of the side effects or the first steps to getting there.

  • Quieting the mind and recognizing ego stories
  • Feeling safe and comfortable
  • Releasing blocks and pain

But those things aren’t the whole of centering.

Centering is allowing Soul back into body, to be in holistically in alignment, so that our natural power, Wisdom, Love, and Presence can flow freely.

Centering is allowing Soul back into body, to be in holistically in alignment, so that our natural power, Wisdom, Love, and Presence can flow freely. Click To Tweet

 

Being centered is our natural state of being. It it how we were born into this world, and it has bee only through learning to fear that we have left behind that which is truly authentic about us. So many of us have the tendency to want to hold soul separate from body. I’ll talk more about this in a future post. But for now I will simply state that Soul needs to be in body (even if its a bit of a contradiction to the literal mind). And that that there is no separation in our Divinity between Soul and Body. They are one in the same, parts of a higher being. Centering happens when we accept and recognize our Divine spark-self, and begin letting that drive the bus.

While is our most natural state of being, we are taught that spiritual people do not feel anger and no not feel depressed or lonely or jealous. And because we feel these things, instead of recognizing the common experience of pain, we think there is something wrong with us. Because of ego, fear, we begin to believe that our feelings and innate worth is definitely less than Divine. No matter how lost or broken we might feel, (or ego causes us to feel) there is never a separation of Soul and Body, self and the innate Divinity we were all born with. There cannot be. If it feels like Soul is far from body, please recognize that this is an illusion that is not true on any level.

Since I have digressed into the esoteric a bit, let’s back to the practical side of centering. I often find it’s easier to go about understanding things of spiritual nature by first looking at what I know feels wrong or what makes my body/mind feel worse.

Symptoms of being Uncentered:

  • Stress and overwhelm
  • Worry
  • Panic
  • Manic planning
  • Indecision
  • Loosing time or time speeding up
  • Cyclical patterns of sadness, disconnection, or a sense of loss or loneliness
  • Stuck in “trying to figure something out”
  • Caught in the blame game, pity me, or self-sabotage
  • loss of motivation, procrastination

 

aligned soul is fuel

 

When Soul is embodied, all these little ego traps don’t work to stop us or get us hung up because Soul is literally the juice that moves us to Wiser and Clearer thinking. When we get Soul in alignment with the rest of us, it is the fuel for genius, creativity, inspiration, and motivation. When our full self is in alignment, we are act from our inner guidance system. That inner guidance system can only be fully activated when Soul in the house, so to speak. The guidance is always present, but it is our in-soul-ment that seems like it’s running off and on again. The one thing I had to experience to believe was that the connection to Soul and Divine is always present, I just had to meet it in the present. I realize I had to be consistent, not the other way around.

 

 

 

This is just the beginning of understanding the practice of Centering, and I hope you will stay tuned for the rest of the series! Don’t forget you can sign up for my newsletter to get my newest posts delivered to your inbox, plus you’ll get the Sensitive’s Essential Thriving Kit free!




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Vlog: Even Joy keeps you from your center

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I know a lot of us out there are searching for your joy, your bliss, your happiness. Don’t let my words alone stop your from that journey! But all forms of intense emotions means we are caught up in ego and story! Even joy. We aren’t meant to live from the highs, but we are meant to be happy. Click the video to see where the balance is between being happy and being presently centered.

 

 

We must have faith to step forward and let go, even our joy, knowing that is what is meant to be ours will return. Click To Tweet

Learning to let go and let your feelings flow through you enable you to flow along with emotion, instead of getting bogged down trying to hold on to that state. This practice is easier to learn when your happy, but you can also learn to do it for more depressive thought-feeling states. Emotions will always be part of our experience as humans, and they are sacred messages about our degree of centeredness in the moment, but that doesn’t mean we have to make all decision based on an extreme feeling. Extreme feelings will always pass and fade, which is just one more indication that they aren’t the truth of who you are, nor do they define you!

Staying grounded in a whirlwind of inspiration

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Whether you call them downloads, hits, or inspiration, it can be tough to stay grounded and centered when in the middle of psychic receiving. When I started with my first intuitive coach, I had asked her “How can you not want to run towards that beauty, towards those amazing feelings?” I feel like for most of my life I had been chasing them, even trying to force them at times.

Don’t forget to check out my video tip on staying grounded in the whirlwind of inspiration!

But my coach asked me…

Where is there to run to? Isn't it all inspiration there within you already? Click To Tweet

It was at that point that I began to feel my resistance to coming to center, and the sacred stillness there begin to melt. All that inspiration was always here, just waiting for me to still enough, centered enough, receptive enough to receive it. It had been me that had been doing the running, chasing, pushing, not the wisdom.

It was at that point I knew the importance of the dance we do in our creative and intuitive processes, of opening and then grounding, rinse and repeat in order to gain greater clarity into the wisdom that is there for us to receive.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you if it seems like these flow stop and start on their own. We tend to lose sight of the fact that these things are cyclical, ebbing and flowing. Yet we can come into a greater understanding of these flows, so we know how and when to best to tap them, without having to push, contrive, or otherwise manipulate our flows. The goal here should be a harmonious process that we can tap when we need to, being a willing participant in the ebbs and flows.

Dealing with high energies like eclipses and retrogrades

Dealing with high energies like eclipses and retrogrades

 

With the high energies from this last week, like many other sensitives out there, I just couldn’t seem to get a grip on myself. Old issues, old words, judgments against myself swirled through my head day and night. And for no particular cause and effect reason. And I was utterly exhausted from the tumultuous night-time forays into my past. I was sorely tempted to be more than a little grumpy.

I will say this upfront I don’t believe the Universe gives us things or circumstances to make us suffer. And I will also say that each of these periods of time have different effects. Listening to resources like Elizabeth Peru or Mystic Mama can give you an idea of the types of themes that might get visited during each of these high energy periods. 

Let’s take a quick example here, Mercury appears to go retrograde every couple of months. It varies in length. Generally speaking, Mercury in retrograde t means there will be less than direct energy in the realms of communication and travel. Does it mean awful things will happen to you? No more than any other time. Does it mean you will get into a fight or miss your flight, maybe. But those could happen at any other time as well. It does mean that if you have issues or triggers around communication you will be given chances to recognize it and clear it. Maybe you need to learn to speak your needs, stand up for yourself, or get clarity on why you always seem to feel misunderstood.

 

 

We are being called to act from our deepest selves, vulnerable, and be in-choice about our decisions. Speak your Truth. Click To Tweet

I know when things seem to go wrong, we want to let our most immediate reaction lead. We want to yell, scream, sigh in frustration, or stomp around the house while we look for our phones, trying to get the car to start, or calling the cable company because the internet is on the fritz.

But I want you to realize something.

Just recognizing this state of off-ness is the point where you need to think about going to take a bubble bath or grabbig a novel, instead of pushing forward with anything serious.

It’s during times, when the whole world seems more chaotic than usual, that we fall back into a bad habits. We think that we have done something wrong, it must be us, maybe we’re being punished. We want to react badly, chuck our good intentions out the window, because we don’t actually believe we are enough, able to cope without falling apart, and/or things won’t go our way unless we make it go our way. But isn’t it funny how the printer always seems to break when we are rushing to get something done or during a retrograde?  Or is that we are already operating under duress and aren’t able to get into a flow state that would help us get around small problems? It’s the thinking, the fear, that is driving this. Planetary bodies can break printers.

Mercury did not come down and take sledge hammer to your printer. Not psychically, not cosmically, not even as an allegory!

 

What I usually find when shifting back to this a Soul-centered state is just how hard I’ve been pushing my agenda on the Universe. I wasn’t in flow, like I thought I was. When we’re coming a low vibe, that pushing or controlling of our flow state actually begins to impair our ability to flow rather quickly. The more drained and discouraged we feel, the more off we get and into fear or insecurity. The further from Soul and center, the faster the downward spiral.

 

But our thoughts and plans that’s all simply expectation and conjecture. Our wounded inner child having a fit because it’s afraid of feeling hurt.  Ego, our potential threat alarm system, doesn’t actually know if there is a threat or not. All it really knows is that we are feeling upset and there must be a reason. So it makes all sorts of guesses as to why that could be. The truth, however, lies in integrating Soul into your daily living and into your problem solving.  Preferably before we take the sledge hammer to the printer!

 

From a higher perspective, the soul perspective, the realm of energy, the first step to healing is always the same. Relax and go back to center. Click To Tweet

 

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And that is the gift of the high energy periods we have throughout the year.  Soul-self is being strengthened so that we can more easily see how we’ve allowed our wounded inner children to run our lives. In the daily grind of things, our connection with Soul can get muddled. During the high energy periods, Soul brought into our awareness. That transition feels chaotic to us because our inner children don’t understand why we can’t give them the reigns again, at least at first. The tantrum our inner children might throw may seem more exaggerated because Soul is trying to put things back into perspective. The gift in these high vibe times, also comes in learning to love into that fear and love our inner wounded child. On the surface this may sound just another call for more self TLC, but this goes deeper.

We have spent many years in self-abusive judgment patterns, layers upon layers of shame and guilt. The high energies times are working to strip away these layers. It might seem uncomfortable, we may get triggered. But once we understand what’s being worked on and what fear-based beliefs challenged, the process becomes more natural. When we are able to love our fears for what they are, simple messages about where we need more love in our lives, then there is no struggle or resistance to these high-energy times. These retrogrades, eclipses, and other astrological events become miraculous and healing.

 

 

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Divinely Aligned Vlog: March 8th why high energies might not feel so good

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Ok, first of all I promise to remember to turn off my notifications next time I vlog! So sorry about the interruptions, I’m still getting the hang of the doing of the tech.

But onward or upward, I wanted to be me in the moment for this series, so this is what you get! You get me leaning against the window in my bedroom to catch the wonderful blue skies outside.

So what’s important about today and today’s message, well it’s one of those high energy days. It’s coming into a super new moon, we’re coming into eclipse energy, and we’re having a master day today. And what all those high energies, you would expect to be feeling pretty darn good, right?

That’s not always the case. If we are not in our truth, our most Divine self, that high energy might hit you like a brick wall. You might even feel a little flu-ish or completely flustered. Watch the latest vlog to get some ideas about how you might get more in-flow with the day and high energies.

Focusing when there’s a thousand things on my plate: kicking overwhelm in the butt

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At the beginning of this year, I should have been suffering massive overwhelm. I had been in the middle of a huge business mindset class, beginning to re-brand Super Secret Powers, keeping up with all the daily stuff, and traveling to an hour  (both ways) 3-4 days out of the week to visit a loved one in the hospital. My relationship to overwhelm before that time had been one of sulking resignation. Being sensitive, I took on my own overwhelm and the overwhelm and frustration around, making any period of overwhelm absolutely miserable for me and everyone around me. I always seemed to hit a chunk of overwhelm and slowly grind to halt and hating on the fact that, yet more thing, didn’t work out. It didn’t matter how excited I had been about doing something, the moment I hit a bit of friction in the journey to get something done I took it as a signal that it was’t going to work out. After years of stress and worry and craziness, I think I have finally nipped overwhelm in the butt!!!

Now overwhelm can be overwhelming and there are a few different ways one can feel overwhelm, so for this post let’s just talk about the ack of too many things and not enough time. You might hate me for this post, rail against me saying “that coach doesn’t understand my life, it’s complicated!” But bear with me, I didn’t think this mindset would work when I first heard it either. So let’s do this quick, like pulling a band aid off!

Overwhelm is a total and utter lie we tell ourselves when we are experiencing self doubt. Click To Tweet

It’s when we are saying:

  • I don’t think I can do this
  • I don’t know if I can handle this
  • How I am supposed to do all this

The thing all these statements have in common is that they are focused on some aspect of not knowing and doubt about enoughness. We experience these doubts when we aren’t sure we have enough, are enough, or can be enough do deal with life according to our expectations. It’s a clarity problem and it’s an expectations problem, and rarely doesn’t it say or mean anything about our intrinsic value (not matter what our wounded egos are freaking out about). Our intrinsic value has nothing to do with the things we are unclear about. We are not unlimited beings, we’re mortal after all, but we are Souls connected to Divine Source. For me this came to a huge realization that when it came to mindset and HOW I was capable of being, that I was only as limited as my mind (wounded ego or 8 yr old inner me) told me I was. I still had the same 24 hours, after all. Nothing about time had changed from one day to the next. Only my thinking had changed.

I believe that emotions are signals our soul uses to tell when we’re in center and of center, in sync with the world or out of sync. Overwhelm is certainly a signal of being out of center and out of sync. But I don’t think I was interpreting it the right way before, I think I was taking it way too personally (which is a hallmark trait of a sensitive person, btw). Overwhelm wasn’t/isn’t telling me or you that we need to stop what we’re doing, it’s asking to get more clear on the “why” of it all. I was committed to seeing these things through. In my case, I didn’t have the option of not doing these things. I spent the money for the class. I chose to make my loved one a big priority. I knew needed to make some changes to how I was going about business building. I was committed. If you’re not committed, then it’s to figure out what it is you CAN commit to and believe we can find a way through. If you are not committed to one end point or another, then no amount of good why’s is going to get you much further. Overwhelm asks to dig deeper, to go into some uncharted or maybe a little scary emotional waters. It asks us to explore our actual capabilities, not just what we think we are capable of. That takes a sense of committed to the adventure of the journey before us to navigate in a emotionally healthy way. One can play commitment leap frog to begin making progress, giving a little faith, a little attention to one small commitment, to see where it goes. But in order to overcome more weighty obstacles, one needs to build up the commitment steam and momentum before they give the big hill a go.

And it helped to get really really specific about what it is that we’re feeling lacking over. Is it really time? Or is it space to breathe and think? Is it about actually doing something, or is it a fear of getting frustrated and further into overwhelm? When we are in overwhelm we are not getting or giving ourselves the time and support we need in order to be in a good place to deal with the tasks ahead. The whole cycle of overwhelm is based on doubt, but then as we decline in feeling well, because we’re so stressed out, we take that some sort of sign.

Overwhelm was never meant to be a stop or slow sign. We don’t necessarily need to “do less” or even “simply”.

Overwhelm means we need to get clear on what actually matters. Click To Tweet

For me, during that really intense period back in January, I doubted that I pull it all off without getting sick, without stressing out, and without freaking out. I took the time to figure out what needed to improve to make my fears and doubt a non-issue. I was afraid of getting sick (and therefore being miserable) so I got more serious about my supplements and wellness routines (couldn’t have done any of it without my essential oils). So now I had the energy to tackle what I needed to tackle, but there were lingering doubts of how I wouldn’t let irritability or fear insert it’s control. I had to really sit back and set some large core desired feeling state goals for this time period. In all the traveling and reinvention of my business, I wanted it feel joyful and loving. I needed to be on the ball for the visits, for the class, for the homework, and for the dreaming into what my new messaging could be. I knew those were my focal points, but I knew I didn’t want to push way through them either. Sure some stuff got put on back burners and I was tired after long and full days, but with my wellness and feelings of security and joy in the forefront, that whole crazy period felt magickal. And it wasn’t the arrangement of appointments, the weather, the little actions that happened that made that time “good” or “bad”. What made the difference was that I recognized what I felt was missing, the things in me that doubt was speaking to, and built a better self care routine, to that I had the energy, emotional space, and clarity in order to keep moving forward.

There is also a lot to be said about acceptance in this. When I knew how I wanted to feel during this, I was able to drop the pity me kind of stories that might have put up resistance to being open and flexible. Staying in joy, also meant that I needed to untroubled, in a state of receptivity to the what the moment brings. And in that I also saw how each and every moment, the only place we actually LIVE from, is the perfect place to be, to begin from, to say YES to. It would only be my fears and self doubt that made me think that each moment is not part of the flow of all that is around me, that I was somehow out of sync. And that is the lie we all believe from time to time, that we are not part of the whole. When really all we need is to believe we are and find a way to support our direct knowing and experience of this infinite potential.

 

 

Grattitudes: creating ease

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Creating ease is something I resist. There is something about struggle that I still cling to, but I know my high vibes rely on ease. I stole this idea from an image I found on Facebook and made my own because it hit home. Part of staying in a high state is knowing what you are fighting for and knowing when remove the fight. Creating ease is what practicing grattitudes is all about. Being able to shift from “UGH, not this again. I hate this.” to a place where we can say “Of course I want to do that!” is a profound shift in way our inner alignment co-creates with the world around us. Why struggle if it’s not worth the struggle? Why struggle if what we are resisting doing it’s actually worth something? Notice I am saying don’t struggle, and not advising not to fight or stand for stand for something. But struggle implies a lack a clarity on why we are doing what we are doing.  It implies our priorities in the moment are not clear, or as clear as we would like.

What is is that stops us from putting away the clothes, or leaving the dishes? What is more important in that moment that causes us to struggle with even the idea of doing those simple things?

Gentle re-framing of the situation often helps me get the clarity I need in order to know what’s even important in the moment. Sometimes a Grattitude will hit you because the time and space you are in. This week I’m more grateful for the small chores and moments because my husband just got the opportunity to work from home. I am grateful for his presence in those small things. Grateful for the thought of our continued ability to build and grow in life together.

Other times, it takes a bit of retrospect in order to make the shift. I find the the question, “what will I be grateful for tomorrow, for having done today?” extremely potent. This kind of thinking, allowing myself to gift my future self with more ease, often is the only thing that will motivate me off the computer or to tackle harder tasks, things I’ve been procrastinating about.

What grattitudes do you need to practice? What ease will you create for yourself today?

What will you be grateful for tomorrow?

What’s Worthy of your Admiration- a ditty on boundaries and self-worth

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I was working in Danielle LaPorte’s Workbook O’Fire searching out some clarity from a place of peace I have been seeking out further connection and grounding into. The question that struck me in the workbook was “What do you tell people at parties you do?”

Being me, and I’m sure I’m not alone in this, my first response is usually to balk and hide. Surely they want to measure me up when they ask those kinds of questions. I tell them any lame thing, not a lie, but rarely if ever the whole truth. Namely, I don’t think people will really understand I will be judged. And the follow through on that thought is judged and found unworthy.

It’s not so much about me, but what I’m doing, standing for, investing in. I’m okay with me, but I’m not okay with the judgment. I balk because, in the pale light of that kind of confrontation, I am not sure it what I do measures up to what I think it is. I realized that I wanted to feel that whatever I am doing is “worthy of my admiration”.  And then I laughed, I laughed like the fool on the spent a month fasting on a mountain only to get a simple truth in revelation.

Don't borrow energy from the future, be in the present with your self-worth

“Worthy of my admiration”….it sounded so conceited. Which is not me. My ego is not that large. I don’t usually know how to be that judgey.

But soul said back to me, “Well, of course, you fall so hard for things and people. You love the potential more than the actual. Who could really be worthy of your admiration when you do not see what is in the NOW?”

That stopped me cold. It’s not that I’m judgemental, it’s that I see the beauty.  I also see where the beauty is clouded, hiding, a little tarnished around the edges. I believe I can fix it, and then focus on a future where that beauty is evident for all to see. Sensitives usually do. From ideas, to plans, to people, and loved ones, we want so very much for their beauty to shine, that we invest in something that is either out of our control or something that simply isn’t “there” yet.

But this also speaks to where we invest our love, our energy, our vital and visceral essence. Even our devotion. Our self-worth.

What is truly worthy of our admiration right now?

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And of the things we really want to admire…perhaps we’re trying too hard to make it something it isn’t…yet. Perhaps we need to take a step back. Perhaps we need to work more closely with it, so that it can be worthy. I know what’s worthy of my admiration. But what’s worthy of your admiration, your devotion? Leave me a comment about your crazy love and admiration!!

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